For those who miscarried, did your DP cry?

[juliajmsn]

Just that really

No. But he was very kind and loving towards me.

I don't think crying necessarily demonstrates depth of feeling. And some people (men and women) find miscarriage less distressing than others.

But if you're upset, yes your partner should be caring for you. Is that what you're asking?

Not for my 8 week miscarriage but he did cry for me when I was in hospital when I miscarried again at 20 weeks. Not in front of me though. He's quite stoic and hardly ever cries but was there for me. I haven't cried much either.

I found miscarriages experiences where my DH and I felt so different from each other and wanted to handle the aftermath so differently that it felt a very lonely time.

No he didn’t, I wouldn’t have expected him to really.

Not with any of the 7 losses we had, I didn't cry every time either, I was exhausted/frustrated/numb

No

No and I'd never have expected him to. It's a very different experience for men.

Yes. But with his mum, not with me.

We had 4 miscarriages. We both cried at times. I had the physical pain but he had to watch it without being able to do anything about it, other than be really nice and caring, and waiting on me hand and foot. The emotional pain was there for both of us - we had the same hopes and dreams for the future and the losses were emotionally hard for both of us.

I wouldn’t have placed expectations on him crying, or expectations that he should react or feel a certain way because everyone handles difficult experiences and grief differently. It’s a horrible thing to happen and I’m thinking of you x

Yes, every time. But not in front of me as he didn't want to upset me further, to my face he was strong and kind and supportive. He went out for a drive alone and told me about it afterwards.

Not Infront of me no, but he cried away from me, then supported me and took a week off work to be with me etc. He actually on the first night went out drinking with his friends, I had a complete break down at 3am texting him about how much he didn't care and how alone I am, he rushed back in a cab the second he realised what he'd done, he was coping in his own way assuming I'd be asleep, men cope different to us women. I was 13 weeks when we found out the baby had died

Yes. He was just as upset. He supported me whilst I was a wreck, and then broke down himself when I was a bit more settled.

Of the 3, 2 no not in front of me and one yes.

Of the 2, no, but I have only seen him cry once - he doesn't tend to show his emotions much.

He was very very caring to me though, and I could tell he was upset. I think he was trying to be strong for me.

No. But he was absolutely there for me.

No, he said oh well at least I can go on my Europe trip now....

He's an exh funnily enough

Not initially but I came home a few days later to find him crying. I think it just took a few days for it to properly hit him

Yes, he cried when we found out and when he held the baby.

No but then neither did I. He's not a very emotional person and I just suspected from the start that it wouldn't stick

Yes when he found out, especially with our first when we both found out at the scan.He doesn't sob, it's more of a 'well-up' and wipe the tears away, but I have had no doubt he cries when he's alone.
His priority was being strong to support me I suppose.
He also tends to cry when he watches something on TV that he can resonate with that reminds him of what we could have had.

I don’t remember, but he lived every second of the event with me.
He is absolutely my rock.

Yes a couple of times together and he told me he cried on his own.

My ex did. But then a few weeks later he was telling me how ridiculous I am for 'still being upset over nothing' and that I was over exaggerating. So crying means absolutely nothing.