When to TTC #2?

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Currently have a 21 month old and pondering when to TTC #2. I waiver from thinking I'd like to start trying maybe next spring/summer, meaning DS would be over 3 by the time a baby arrived, to thinking "oh goodness how do people have 2 of these?!" and worrying I wouldn't manage.

Will it "click" one day and I'll feel definitely ready? Or is it one of those things where you just have to go for it anyway?

For context DH & I are both 30.

Hi there! I have an 3 year old and we’re thinking to start TTC #2 very soon, DC1 will be just under 4 years when baby #2 comes along so hopefully the gap will be manageable. In regards to the feeling of wanting another child and the “click”, I guess that entirely depends on you and your circumstances and you may never be ‘entirely ready’. I know people that want to tick things off before trying for another or wanting a particular age gap, or want to have everything ready before trying again, it’s all different.

I started talking about #2 around the year mark, but didn’t actually feel ready ready to go through it all again until a few months ago! Seeing DC1 now almost out of the toddler age, you get the feeling of giving them a sibling. DC1 is now able to understand a lot more so they can help and play with the new baby too. Also my body and mind are in a better place now, and we’re pretty settled and have the space too, so it seems like a good time.

Question I asked myself was “am I ok with giving up the little down time I have now in raising another child along side” and the thought of having another baby in the family kind of answered it for me.

plus it’s a good thing having 2 young kids as it’s all still fresh in your head and you’re already sleep deprived ahaha!

I felt when my first turned 2 I was ready to try again. Waited a few more months so she turned 3 a couple of months before baby was born. Has been hard work but it’s worth it and things have settled now.

I concieved my LO 1st month TTC so thought it would be the same with No.2. Nope. Not at all. So I wish I started sooner when he was 8months. Instead we started when he was 16months and he is now 22 mo ths and still TTC.

As I am over 35 I will be heading to my Gp if I am out this cycle.

Thank you for the viewpoints, it's really helpful getting different takes!

I wish you all the best with your journey, fingers crossed for you @MixedCouple We conceived DS quite easily too but it does worry me that we may not be so lucky 2nd time around.

In terms of things to "tick off" before a next baby, there aren't really any for us I don't think. We've been married for coming up 6 years, both have decent jobs (I'm PT around DS) and we have a house that we plan to stay in long term.

It's only really been the past few months I've thought I could be ready to try again maybe next summer, before then the thought terrified me I think I'm a bit scared of what I'm letting myself in for (e.g. DH works shifts so is sometimes at work for bedtime, how do I do that with 2 on my own?!). I also have this weird thought of not wanting to rush it because the thought of being done with the pregnancy/small baby part of my life is really sad, as we're pretty sure we'd stop at 2.

Hey!

Both myself and partner are 30
We have a 20.5 month old son - ie, basically the same age/situation!

I'm 5dpo first cycle trying for a second.

My dad recently passed away and my brother made a comment of 'I'm so thankful I have siblings, I couldn't cope without you guys' - so I guess that was my 'click' to get on and start trying! We already lost my mum 20 years ago so we only have each other now (obvs partners and children) for support in a 'family unit' etc. I can't imagine my son being left 'behind' on his own (I mean, I hate leaving him at nursery as I love spending time with him).

Exactly as you wrote, I thought how would I deal with two?! But I think, millions of women have 2+ children are here to tell the tale shall we say.. so I've convinced myself all will be well 😆

Plus, lack of sleep already.. what's one more to the mix!