Nervous to TTC after MC

[Oxalis00]

Hi everyone,

I had a MMC at what should have been 12 weeks at the end of April, and it’s been incredibly complicated with several surgeries and blood transfusions. I’m only just now feeling physically back to normal. I guess that’s an extreme situation with all the blood loss etc but still, I’m curious to know when people who have had MC decided to try again, and how you decided. I want to do everything possible to give it a good chance this time, and I’m worried about TTC again straight away in case my body isn’t ready…but maybe I’m just worried in case I MC again, or just worried in general…!

Keen to hear from anyone also TTC after a recent MC.

So sorry for your loss. I too had an MMC in may at what should've been 11/12 weeks. Started the 4th May and went on til mid june with infections and retained tissue.

I am now 4+6 weeks so hoping this time is different. I don't think we will ever not worry... Until we have our baby in our arms, you will notice every twinge, you will presume things aren't going how they should, but if you don't try then you will never know I guess.

I was ttc straight away but I think my body wasn't ready until after my last period at the end of July. Xx

Thanks so much for your reply @Kellyaust - I appreciate the understanding that comes from a shared journey. I think I recognise your name from somewhere else on here… Congratulations on your BFP! That’s great news, though I understand the continuing worry. Was there anything in particular that made you think your body wasn’t ready previously and then was after your July period? Or just the fact you got pregnant?!

Similar situation to @Kellyaust . Found out I had miscarried at 13 week scan in May and had retained products so bleeding lasted longer than expected. Seemed to take a couple of months for my cycles to get back to normal and then we conceived. Mentally it helped me to TTC even though I was still grieving. I am now pregnant 5+4 and every day is filled with worry and anxiety. But I know I have to keep trying to stay positive.

Thanks for your reply @KatieJ345 and congratulations on your BFP - may it be smooth sailing from here! I can imagine how consuming the worry must be when pregnant after a MC though.

It’s helpful to see you say you started TTC while still grieving. I hadn’t realised till reading that that maybe I feel I shouldn’t try till I’m ‘over it’ or that it’s disloyal somehow to try again… neither of which I really believe now I think about it. It really messes with your mind, all this! Glad to hear from others further along the journey.

Sorry for the horrible experience you've been through. I had my second MMC last month, thankfully both times I've had surgical management with a pretty straightforward recovery. Now onto my first proper cycle and TTC again. My first MMC was in 2019 with my ex. I fell apart, we fell apart and ended up actually seperating about 6 months after (it was sort of the trigger, we weren't right together long before that!). So never got round to trying again.

This time with my current partner I've got a great support network, I'm nearly 35 and ideally want more than one kid so to be honest I just wanted to get on and try again otherwise I'm giving myself less chances to have a baby or babies. I also think I was better placed this time round as I knew the process, my options etc so was much more level headed.

My view is very much that I have to take the risk otherwise there's no chance of a baby!

The first 3 sentences from Moosey is exactly my story too. I’m sorry you’ve been through this also @Oxalis00.

I knew I wanted to go again as soon as I could. I feel like I’ve been robbed now of that carefree ‘I’ve got a positive test so I’m definitely having a baby’ type attitude, but it is what it is and there is no way round it.

Well at the time I didn't see this but looking back now I do, before my July period I was all over the place, I was having hot flashes, spotting after ovulation, cramping a lot thought my cycle, and generally unwell mentally and physically. When my July period hit it's like something changed in me, everything in me relaxed I can't explain it. I'm just hoping all goes well this time because it was mentally and physically so tough to get through xx