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Can't take much more..

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dip · 15/12/2004 11:15

Hi all..

sorry that my first post is a sad one, but I just need to get it off my chest!

dh & I were ttc for 7 months, for #2 when I found out he'd been 'playing away'.. every time we seem to be making progress (been together 14 yrs, hv 1 ds, businesses and we do love each other, worth working through - decided in the end) his 'bit' texts me with cr4p (old stuff, sent to cause trouble) the final straw was a pic she sent me of him asleep, and a voicemail from him to her asking her for pic's. (all old, and I know he's had nothing to do with her for ages apart from to tell her to leave us alone - cliche I know, but she's a bunny boiler. believed all the bs he fed her to get his way.)I've now changed my mob number. He's told me everything. He acknowledges what an idiot he's been, even feels a bit sorry for her (4 leading her on I guess!). He feels awful for what she's doing..but is powerless to stop her.(sorry, can't say why) Despite him telling her loads of times to go away, she just won't give up trying to cause trouble between us.
Anyway, had all that to contend with, then yesterday my best friend who has 4 kids (by 4 diff dads) is pg She can't look after the ones she has got, they are scared of her. She drinks a LOT and does other 'stuff' (BAD)..

It's just so unfair, there was I six months ago, in ignorance, ttc (even having fert. treatment!) in that time i've found out about his affair, she's got married (2 the father of # 4 & now #5).
I haven't even got as far as being able to sleep with my dh again yet. Time isn't on my side either. He is being sympathetic & supportive. (he's desp. for another baby, we all are-ds inc!)

Sorry for the long one, and it being such a miserable one - just feeling sorry for myself.

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Chuffingoodtime · 15/12/2004 11:50

Hugs dip. Not sure what to say but you have every reason to feel sorry for yourself in my opinion.
Have a good Christmas - and start nice and fresh (hopefully) in 2005!

chillbur · 15/12/2004 11:52

Hi dip - sounds like you are having a really rough time, I'm sorry. I think your ttc should probably be put to one side while you completely sort things with your dh - there's nothing like pregnancy to make you feel vulnerable. It's good he's stopped seeing this other woman, and it sounds like you will get throught this together, but it will take time. If she tries to contact you again, just rise above it and ignore her (I klnow that's easier said than done). Also, I would try not to compare your situation to your friend's - that is a recipe for disaster IME.

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