When will it be my turn?

[Optimistic66]

I know it sounds unreasonable but recently i've really been struggling with everyone announcing their pregnancies! IRL more than mumsnet! In the last week there have been several friends and family members and today someone just annouced that it was a lovely big surprise to fall pregnant.

I obviously congratulated but inside my felt really sad for myself, it so hard with each person that annouces feeling like it wont be my turn. Is this just a phase that passes? Do i get to the acceptance stage at some point? Does anybody else feel like this?

Hey, OP. Not unreasonable at all. It's so, so hard, isn't it? It feels like everyone around you is falling pregnant with their first, second and/or even third child and you're struggling to get your first. It's really, really rough. I don't have any answers, but I can certainly relate and empathise. It's a nasty club to be in. The only wisdom I can impart is keep trying. How long have you been trying and have you and your partner had any fertility investigations done?

Optimistic66, suggest you and your partner both take regular vitimin E and zinc supplements, long story but it us suggested that they work wonders for sperm count and make implantation more likely, etc. Have a look at the on line research available. I have friends who have tried for a long time, taken these and fallen pregnant really quickly. May not help but very much worth trying. Good luck x

Not unreasonable at all. Being honest, I didn't find it got any easier. TTC with my ex it took 2.5 years (and soooo many people got pregnant and had their babies in that time, it was insane). Sadly ended in miscarriage. Second pregnancy with my new partner took 6 months and we found out his sister in law was only 4 weeks ahead of us, and then I miscarried again so now have to watch them going through pregnancy only just ahead of where I would have been. I still don't have any children but hoping my luck will change in the next few months!

You just have to try and seperate your life from theirs. Hope you get your BFP soon x

Not unreasonable at all. It’s helped me to remind myself that is not like they’re doing it to spite me, and their situation has no effect on mine. There isn’t a finite amount of babies! But it is really hard, and seems completely unfair.

It's not unreasonable at all, it's so so difficult. You're certainly not alone although I know it does feel that way 🩵