Anyone else not like other people knowing they're ttc?

[ChicaLovesHerLocalGreengrocer]

Have been married now for 6 months, and we've decided to ttc. Ever since we told everyone we were getting married, it's been 'so, babies next, huh?'.
Quite a few friends and relatives keep dropping hints like 'it'll be you soon' etc. Now, we are ttc, but I don't want anyone to know that, not even close friends, because it seems a little like tempting fate. Also, I've always been a very private person, and it wouldn't feel natural to me to talk about this.
I guess all I want to know is am I really weird? Is anyone else keeping quiet about ttc?

the only people who know we are ttc are MNers!! I actively put people off the scent where possible as I hate people trying to second-guess me every time I decline a glass of wine!!

I should add, for fairness, that I am guilty of pg-spotting (and very good!! )...

Not abnormal at all.

We've never told anyone and nor would I.

My SIL told everyone when she started trying for DC2 and, over two years down the line, they are still trying and finding it upsetting when people keep asking, "Any luck yet?".

I know about the not drinking etc. We've 'given up alcohol for lent' to give us both a chance to start well, and then I think the excuse for much reduced wine consumption will have to be 'oh, we felt so healthy during lent, we'd thought we'd see how long we could keep it going!'

No I don't tell anyone irl.

Difficult. Would def not tell work and the vast majority of my mates. Would tell my Mum (we are really close) and maybe a very close friend or 2. But, everyone who I was close enough to talk to (including Mum) knows I have an irregular cycle and have been told ttc could take a while (I am quite open with the people few I trust implicitly) so they wouldn't expect it to happen quickly, so I wouldn't be under too much pressure. Personally I would rather share with a few trusted allies so when/if it takes a while I can share my frustrations with them as well, instead of having to keep quiet about the whole thing altogether. I could bare the thought of ttc for 12m+ and not being able to share my frustrations with someone other than DH. Thats just me though, I couldn't keep completley quiet about it.

thats "couldn't bare" of course, not could bare.

I tell no one, in RL or mn, just dh

Hi Chica,

I don't think it is weird at all - but everyone is different. Some friends of a friend are getting married at the end of the year and have already told people they will be trying for a baby straight after the wedding. Personally I wouldn't tell because a) it is such a private, personal thing and b) you don't know how long it will take. The last thing you need when struggling to conceive is people saying 'so, have you managed it yet?'. Just my opinion though.
I have been married nearly 3 years and we are planning on ttc end of year, so I have come off the pill and started folic acid. I saw some close friends at the wknd and really felt like saying something, but didn't and am glad I kept schtum. It is extremely personal I think. HTH.

Ok, that's reassuring. I guess I was confusing rl with Mn and all it's frankness.

Btw, during a pretty normal coffee time conversation at work the other day, a male colleague who I don't know very well mentioned that he and his wife were trying for a baby. That just gave me an awful mental image of him in bed huffing and panting over her. Def TMI!