BFP after 2 chemical pregnancies

[Lemon89]

I just wanted to write a post because I’ve frantically been searching mumsnet like an obsessive lunatic the last few months. Hoping sharing my experience helps someone else like others have helped me.

I am TTC baby #1, age 34. I usually have a 26 day cycle and ovulate usually on day 14. I track my BBT and have been using ovulation sticks, and my EWCM. I have also been using Conceive plus and taking wild nutrition fertility vits and omega 3 for 6 months.

I fell pregnant in April, had normal period pain but then got a faint BFP on 12dpo - then sadly watched future tests become fainter over the course of a few days before I had the early miscarriage/ chemical pregnancy bleed. Horrific.

I then fell pregnant again In March and the same thing happened. Faint BFP on 12dpo after period like cramps, got fainter over a week and then started bleeding. Soul destroying after you read that only 5% of people will have two miscarriages.

with both BFPs I had symptoms- smell was on high alert, sore left nipple, crazy dreams, cramping. I was also obsessively testing from 8dpo each time and got nothing until 12dpo.

i then paid to see a private specialist and had a scan and blood tests. All absolutely fine. We tested DH’s sperm two years ago when wanting to check all was ok to wait a bit longer and all was fine there. The specialist said it’s likely an egg quality issue and to keep trying.

I then started taking 3 x coq10 daily (from Amazon) as I heard they improved egg quality, I also got a prescription of progesterone to start after ovulation. I also saw a homeopathist and started taking homeopathy in June- basically trying everything possible to balance my hormones!

I had a month off TTC in June as it was emotionally too much. July we tried again, I was convinced I was pregnant, took progesterone from 3dpo till 13dpo - BFNs. I had ALL the pregnancy symptoms from the progesterone pessaries and felt like I’d been tricked!

finally, I have just had a BFP at 9dpo, which is strong and a world away from the faint BFPs that were before the chemicals. I’m now 13dpo and my tests are looking so much darker, I think a dye stealer will be here within the week and it’s so reassuring to finally see!!!

I actually ovulated on day 10 this month, which is really early for me. Maybe that’s helped.

I started taking progesterone pessaries after my BFP as I couldn’t mentally deal with the side effects from taking them after ovulation, if I wasn’t pregnant again.

ironically, I haven’t had much cramping before the BFP this time, mainly feels like dull butterflies and stretching. My sense of smell is wild (which is why I tested at 9dpo), I’m having crazy dreams and I’m absolutely exhausted but this could be the progesterone pessaries. I also have started taking aspirin at night recommended by the fertility consultant.

I know it’s super early days, who knows if this one will work out; but it already feels a world away from the previous two times. I’m terrified it does all come crashing down, but just wanted to share my experience incase it helps anyone else xx

Hi @Lemon89 congratulations! Didn't want to read and run. You've had a tough time, and I know from experience that getting that first proper positive comes with elation, but also anxiety. We know our bodies so well, and it seems like this is definitely the one for you! Enjoy it, you are pregnant :) always good to hear the positive stories :)

Hi @Lemon89 congratulations. Such lovely news after your losses. Can I ask where you managed to get a progesterone prescription from?

Thank you @MotherOfShihTzus - I just don’t think I’ll relax until a lot more time has passed but I’m very pleased to finally get strong BFPs 😊

@Lifegivesyoulimes i went to a private clinic and paid for a consultation, and so the consultant prescribed me progesterone- although apparently the GP will provide my next prescription for it. Hope that helps!

Hey @Lemon89 how are you getting on? I’m in the exact same boat as you, now 4W on progesterone from 3DPO after two chemical pregnancies.
This pregnancy is also much stronger in terms of positives, I actually got my first positive 8DPO with my digital BFP at 10DPO.

Only thing is I’ve been lightly bleeding/ spotting for 4 days and I’m just absolutely filled with worry. I last tested HCG last night at 13DPO and my test is definitely double in darkness from my morning 12DPO test but I just can’t help and worry with this bleeding.

I don’t think continued testing is going to be mentally beneficial for me, but I’m worried progesterone is masking a miscarriage 🙈

@Lemon89 hi lovely, when you say you fell pregnant in April and again in March, I assume you mean March of the following year? I had a chemical 9 months ago and just nothing since. I've been feeling like it's never going to happen ever again

@LacedBouquet ah I’m sorry you’re in the same boat, it’s horrible isn’t it 😩 I’m now 5weeks 4 days and all is going ok so far 🙏🏻 have booked an early scan for 7 weeks so desperately trying not to think about it to much before then.

I stopped testing when the lines got super dark, because I feel like I now just need to trust the process. And if it’s not meant to be, there’s nothing I can do about it (is what I’m trying to tell myself anyway).

have you spoken to your Gp about the spotting? I’m sure spotting is quite normal but I don’t know what impact progesterone has on that 🙄 def worth speaking to your Gp or EPU for some reassurance! The wait for a scan is an absolute killer isn’t it!

hope you’re doing ok - I feel like once you’ve had a miscarriage no matter how early, it takes all the joy and hope away 😢 just makes it stressful! Try your best just to be extra kind to yourself xx

@MoonlightDreamer i actually had two chemicals back to back this year (it’s meant to say May not March 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’ll amend it now)

its so hard 😩 have you tried taking coq10 and good quality fish oils? That with homeopathy is what I think made me conceive. Really hope you get the BFP soon, sending love xxx

Hi @Lemon89

congratulations on your BFP :)

I’m currently trying to advocate for progesterone suppositories to start taking after ovulation following x2 chemicals. My Gp won’t prescribe it and EPU will only prescribe it once I’m actually pregnant again, but I want to start using it after ovulation to aid implantation in the event I conceive again this month. Do you have any advice on how you were able to obtain this privately? Feel free to DM me if it’s easier. Thanks and appreciate any advice you can give :)

Hi @rosied31 sorry for my late reply. To be honest I found that a private clinic will offer you whatever you ask for. And once I told my GP that a private consultant had suggested and prescribed it, my GP has been prescribing it ever since! It’s not ideal you have to go private as obviously expensive, but I just asked them and they prescribed it straight away. Hope that helps and everything crossed for you, I know how emotionally intense and exhausting it is xx

Thanks for your reply! I actually managed to obtain a prescription privately yesterday which is a huge relief, psychologically, as I feel a bit more confident about trying again this month. Just need to ovulate now ! Thanks so much for your advice and hope you are doing ok xx

@rosied31 thats great news - really hope it helps you 🩷 just be aware that the progesterone pessaries may cause you lots of early pregnancy symptoms whether you’re pregnant or not and then may also delay your period if you’re not pregnant. They did both to me and it was mentally v challenging as I was expecting a BFP after all the symptoms 🙄 so then the following month when I actually did fall pregnant again I couldn’t face taking them after ovulation so just starting them after my BFP.

thank you - I’m 11 weeks now so I’ll be so relieved to get past 12 weeks. Keeping everything crossed for you xx

Your story is giving me so much hope ❤️ absolutely incredible that you’re at 11 weeks now, and this next week will fly by before your 12 week scan. So happy for you! Noted on the progesterone side effects…thanks again for your help x

Hello where did you get the prescription from please? X

I had it prescribed at the Women's Health clinic in Dulwich, SE London. NGL it was a pretty expensive process, the prescription alone is £100 (and then consultation is on top of that). Hope that helps, I honestly think any private fertility clinic/gynae will prescribe it to you if you ask x