Worried about my fertility

[Internette]

Hi girls, my partner and I have been trying to have a baby for 4 months now, but each time it's been a failure. Neither he nor I have any known health problems, I've stopped drinking at parties, I eat balanced meals, I take vitamins, I do sport, I regulate my stress at work as much as possible, we have regular intercourse and even more so during the fertile period... but I have the feeling that we're going to have trouble conceiving, it's been a terrible feeling all along. It's as if I had a premonition. Today is the 2nd day of my period and I'm starting to experience them as mourning. Does anyone have a good pregnancy story to tell that might help me stay positive? Thanks ☺️

Four months is nothing. How old are you?

I’m 30 !

Firstly stop seeing it as a failure if you don't get pregnant in a particular month. The odds are that you won't get pregnant in one particular cycle, which is why the guideline would be to contact your GP if nothing after 2 years.

Do you track ovulation? Is your partner looking after himself as much as you are yourself? Is it possible you're having too much sex during your fertile period?

Try not to worry yourself because there's absolutely zero reason for you to be concerned. You've only been trying 4 months ! Which really is nothing. I think your worrying yourself over nothing. If you haven't conceived after 2 years trying then the gp will organise some tests for you. Nhs state its perfectly normal for couples to take upto 2 years to conceive. Just because some women make it look easy and get pregnant first go, dosent mean it's the same for every women , and its normal

Thanks ☺️
My partner take care of himself as well !
I track ovulation with the Flo app + listen to my body
I don’t think we are having too much sex, just almost once a day, by the way too much could be a problem ?

Thanks 😊 🙏😘

4 months really is not a long time at all and definitely no cause for concern at this stage.
I took 2m with my daughter who is now 3.5 years old and I just got a positive a few days ago agyer ttc for 6 months.
I wouldn’t have any concerns or start worrying for at least 12m. After 12m you can contact your gp.

I think have sex every other day after your period stops and then when you get a positive ovulation test have sex 3 days in a row.

Congratulations !
With all your answers, I'm only going to worry for good after 12 months.

You've only tried four times.

Statistically speaking with no issues 97% of couples conceive within 12 month. 98% with 24 months

Anxiety and stress can definitely impact TTC, so try to relax and just enjoy life while trying to get pregnant. There's no reason to stop drinking entirely. Go out with friends and have fun!

thank you for the reassurance

Unfortunately, I know there are some things I can't change: I'm a doctor (and French, by the way!). I chose this site because the women there seem more informed, friendly and less shy about these subjects than French women).

I had this gut feeling I'd struggle to conceive and wohke need ivf and just couldn't imagine I'd ever be lucky enough to fall pregnant.

Too me 4 months to get that BFP!

I think SMEP recommends every other day and then dat of ovulation and day after? Hopefully someone will be on to correct me!

The cycle 1 before before I got pregnant we did it > every day, but tested negative then I read on here that was probably too much. Next cycle we did every other day and I got pregnant. Not saying it's magic but I think there's something about the semen building up a decent concentration of sperm.

You're still young, but if you get to 12 months with nothing happening, get the ball rolling in tests.

💪i will

😇Feels good to see im not the only one with bad feelings for NO reason, And that it's unfounded because the outcome is sometimes good!

Honestly just keep doing what you're doing, knowing your cycles and making sure you get down to it on the right days! Up to a year is totally normal for a 30 year old to conceive - each month even if you time everything right you only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant so definitely no need to worry yet. It took me 2.5 years to get pregnant the first time, and even then all my fertility tests came back as 'normal' so it was just treated as unexplained infertility. Second time round it took me 6 months. Unfortunately both ended in miscarriage so no kids yet but we're going to try again as soon as possible after this one, and I'd not go for tests or help until another 8ish months passes (which would make me 35). Good luck and hope you get your BFP soon x

@Whatelsecouldibecalled don't know where you're getting your stats from but it's 80% within 12 months and 95% within two years without further intervention. Which is still very reassuring for the OP hopefully. 4 months is nothing.

@MaybeBabyTwo thanks for the correction. I knew it was something high

@Whatelsecouldibecalled 🤣🤣 then I have to say please don't make up stats on the Internet!!!

@MaybeBabyTwo noted. Sorry you're offended

I appreciate your support ladies :) have a good day !

In fact I have tears in my eyes, I am 11dpo, with a negative test this day, absolutely no symptoms, and the certainty in my heart that I am not pregnant. I feel so alone and depressed. My partner has no idea what TWW is.

@Internette i feel your pain I’m 18 months in TYC . Sending you baby dust and a hug xx