I feel like implantation won’t happen

[Plumchumm]

Hi everyone

I’m 9dpo today and promised myself I wouldn’t test till 14dpo (day af is due), but I got sucked in because I’m weak. I haven’t had any symptoms apart from slightly sore swollen boobs, so I wasn’t thinking about testing at all. This is my 5th cycle so I know that all the symptom spotting is just progesterone.

But now that I’ve tested and come back with stark negatives, I’m trying to stay positive and tell myself it’s too early and implantation maybe hasn’t happened yet.
My partner and I did SMEP this month, I caught ovulation through bbt and opk; and then even confirmed it on ultrasound. So it’s very likely that the egg was fertilised but for some reason I just feel like implantation will fail or it won’t stick, something will go wrong. I have hardly any symptoms, if anything I feel great. No cramps nothing. So just feels like it won’t happen..

This is my second pregnancy, and with my first I felt implantation so strongly (had one terrible migraine) and had bleeding for 5 days after. Cramps and everything. This time things are just fine…

I don’t really know what the purpose of this is, just wanted to vent I guess

"So it’s very likely that the egg was fertilised" - even if you time everything right, you only have a 20-25% chance of getting pregnant each cycle, there's no guarantee at all that an egg fertilises I'm afraid. All you can do is stay healthy and active, make sure you keep your brain occupied too as stress isn't good for you. Try not to overthink it and (hard as it is) wait until your period is due before taking any tests otherwise it'll make it harder. You can't do any more than you have to try and get pregnant, now you just have to let nature happen.

I know all this is easier said than done, believe me, I went through 2.5 years to get pregnant first time and have just had my second loss after trying for 6 months this time, but you're just stressing yourself out unnecessarily xx

I think what I meant was, even if the egg fertilised, I somehow feel like my body just won’t let it stick. I guess this is a result of ttc for a while, I start thinking that ‘even if’ I get past one stage then the next def won’t happen. It’s putting me on edge and I feel like I need to ‘be careful’ during the ttw in case I do something that ruins it. Which feels a little silly, considering with my first pregnancy, I wasn’t ttc at all so I went swimming, was drinking , had hot baths etc. and it still stick.

Jeez i cuda wrote this myself truely cud of!! Feel exactly the same as u on 5th cycle there ttc #2 af due today and shes pure toyin with me crampin like mad but negative clear blue early. Im so sad as on cycle 2 and 4 ive had a chemical 😔 and it really does jus feel like this will never happen. I know everyone says relax but i just cant .. we are doin abso everythin and periods are textbook. Ive lit jus got rid of every test now in the house n wont do one next month. I know 5 months in grand scheme of things aint long its jus it feels it xx

This is exactly how I feel. Just keep thinking of all the things that could go wrong and it’s really bringing me down, even when fertility tests and everything are coming back fine.. feel like my body is against me or something

100 percent know exactly how u feel. I fell with my first 2 weeks after comin off pill and i stupidly believed it would be in an around the same again!! Im fed up of living in tww incriments and readin awh if i drink pomegrante it will stick. If i dont get hot baths in the tww it will stick. Im getting results tomorro of 21 day test n i guarantee there wont be anything flagged its jus crushin xx

5 cycles isn't a that long a time even though it feels like it is, up to a year is considered totally normal - you can't control whether it implants or not and you need to still live your life whilst TTC. Unfortunately it's one of those things (and please do believe me when I say I know it's easier said than done!). I started TTC for the first time 7 years ago (haven't been trying the whole time, still don't have any kids) and my biggest regrets are around spending too much time not doing things during 2WWs, worrying I'd do something wrong etc. I waste a lot of my life overthinking it all and I wish I hadn't. With the exception of heavy binge drinking or taking hard drugs, there's very little you can do that will stop an egg from implanting if it's going to.

Best advice I can give is try to work on only trying to control things you can actually control. And remember to live your life in the meantime otherwise the TTC world will eat you up.

I'm not saying any of this to dismiss your feelings, I totally understand them. But you need to take a deep breath, remember not everyone gets pregnant that quickly (whether that's their first, second, third pregnancy or more, even if previous pregnancies were immediate), and that you're among millions of women worldwide feeling the same way. Cut yourself some slack and find some things you enjoy doing to take your mind off it all x

OP, I feel you. I'm exactly the same.

It's only cycle one of ttc no.2 for me. I'm 10DPO today and have tested negative with FMU (on a crap low sensitivity test, but still). I got a very clear positive with my daughter on an easy@home and a FRER at 10dpo, and have been able to detect pregnancy this early previously, so that's hard to shake.

Last time me & DP ttc, I got pregnant every month we tried, except for one when I had an ovarian cyst rupture at ovulation. Literally four times in a year, though sadly three didn't stick of course. So I have really messed up expectations of my body being able to do it now, even though I'm a couple of years older (and 40! 😱)

My ovulation is fairly predictable and this month I got a positive OPK as usual, we DTD a LOT to cover all bases, and now... nothing. AF due Sat but I have zero symptoms. I'm mentally preparing myself for AF to show as usual but I do feel irrationally disappointed! I have a para-ovarian cyst that's quite large and I can't seem to get answers on whether that might interfere with ttc. It's frustrating.

All we can do is stay positive, OP, keep distracted, and try again! Aside from the things we all know about, nothing will stop an egg from implanting if it's meant to be. The best thing you can do is keep those stress levels down by being as kind to yourself as possible. Good luck! xx

Thank you so much, it’s really comforting to know I’m not alone and others experience the same thing like me. Wow you are really fertile! You never know, I have heard a lot that people find out they are pregnant on the one month they have no symptoms. I’m also 10dpo. Wishing you the best of luck! I’ll update my result when I test again in a few days (too scared to do it now)

I just wanted to update and say I got my bfp today at 11dpo.

At 10dpo I started getting sharp pains and cramps all day, I also had a huge dip in my BBT (which I knew could be implantation dip but also know it could mean nothing). I wasn’t thinking too much of it (had proper stark negatives on 9dpo), but at night I felt like something overcame me.

I had like cold symptoms, shivery, so exhausted, then hot flashes all in the space of like half an hour. Then after that suddenly all calm. It reminded me of my first pregnancy, in hindsight I realised that was when I implanted. So later that night I did a test with an IC and it came out so faint but defo not stark. I was shocked.

Then this morning I took another and it was darker. Went and got a few other tests and in the afternoon it came up noticeable. So then I got a digital tonight and got ‘pregnant’. So shocked and happy.

I hope this will inspire everyone ttc’ing and feeling a bit down that it can happen even when it feels like it won’t. I have PCOS and so I haven’t ovulated every cycle, it’s been so stressful not knowing when or how. I will say what I did differently this month was I took soy isoflavones and tracked both opk and BBT. Other than that, made sure to BD every few days around fertile period (not every day).

i wish you ladies the best of luck and thank you for commenting! ❤️