Is anyone else completely fed up?

[Annapolis35]

I’m in my 2ww again after having a MMC last April. It feels like everyone else gets pregnant very easily after a miscarriage and I’m still here, feeling absolutely hopeless again in a 2ww. Is anyone else in a similar situation? It’s been about 15 months since the miscarriage and all fertility tests etc have been normal.

Hi @Annapolis35 I totally get where you're coming from. I had MMC in March and have actively being ttc since then, had faint bpf last week but sadly it's turned into a CP 😢 There's a fantastic thread I'm on that you should follow, loads of people in the same boat as us but also loads of positive outcomes to give some TTC May 2023 💖✨ previous MC March 2023 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4798981-ttc-may-2023-previous-mc-march-2023 xx

Yep, not as long as you but I got pregnant fairly quick in Feb, mmc in may, and nothing for the last 2 cycles, I've been spotting on 8dpo and 6dpo both cycles... Also gone from 28 day cycle to 26 last month and now 24 this month and it's really stressing me out because I'm 38 with not much time left 😕 I also have severe symptoms after ovulation upto AF which I never used to have before the mmc.

I consider giving up tbh

Thank you both! @Sez281 i will join that group it sounds really helpful. Sorry for both of your losses too. I’m at the point now where I can’t even imagine it happening anymore. I think I might make a decision to just stop trying and move on.

Yup, almost exactly the same backstory here. I had a surprise pregnancy followed very swiftly by an early miscarriage (I must have been around 5 weeks) last March, have been properly TTC ever since and have now just entered cycle 19 without a sniff of anything. It's truly shit.

I am sorry to hear that and so sorry for your loss @curliegirlie it really is just truly shit! I am hoping one day we will get that miracle, but I’m just completely fed up with it all. The constant waiting for ovulation or periods, the tempering expectations with the hope. It is soul destroying.

Hey, I am on cycle 13 and never seen a positive, so am with you feeling rather fed up!
Hopefully our time will come soon!

Yep, had a miscarriage in feb, absolutely nothing since then. Literally everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant too and while I’m obviously happy for them it’s so difficult when we’re doing everything we need to do and it just isn’t happening! We saw our gp last week who has referred us for some tests although she warned of really long waits for them!

So sorry so many of us are going through it. It’s so rubbish and sorry for your loss @Bluenigellas. did you gp not do blood tests and stuff with them? They did a bunch for us before a referral and it ruled out a lot of things.

sorry too @missmoosh our time definitely will come! It’s just so hard to not get disheartened by it.

I am sorry for all of your losses.
I think a difficult part for me is I always thought trying for a baby would be so exciting and it's been hellish instead...I'm sure you all feel that even more strongly than I do having had a loss.

Hi,
I’m in the exact same position. Started TTC in January 22, got pregnant pretty quickly but had a MMC at 9 weeks. I had a D&C and have TTC ever since. We’ve had no hint of a positive since. I have googled EVERYTHING! I’ve had blood tests and everything seems to fine.

I have been having acupuncture since April (which seems to have done nothing) but she advised me to do a micro biome test. I was reluctant but did it…it has come back and I’ve tested positive for urea plasma. This can make conception difficult and can cause MMC. It’s treated with a 7 day course of antibiotics…I’m hoping that once this is done we get our positive

@missmoosh I know, it really has become something so stressful and just sad really. The only thought I hold onto is that one day this will be a distant memory—this too shall pass.

@Pie8er Interesting about the biome, I had no idea that could make a difference. I’ve had a UTI in recent times and had some antibiotics so hoping if I’ve had something like that it’s cleared. I was same with acupuncture, I went for six months and it did nothing so I stopped going. Sorry your situation is the same as mine, it’s shit.

Yep, feel like giving up everyday. I've been trying to get pregnant since 2006 . Fell pregnant immediately after dye test last year but it just didnt stick. I lost it at 4-5 weeks and I've not been able to get pregnant since. I'll be 38 this year so it's just adding to my anxiety. Everyone I know is super fertile so I've found alot of solace in mumsnet and it's good to know I'm not alone In this struggle

@Annapolis35 yes she referred me for blood tests, they are the only things that will happen quickly I think as we have to have them on day 1-4 which I’ve done and then day 21/22 of my cycle which is next week! I have diagnosed myself with low progesterone but that’s just my own google diagnosis so we’ll see what comes up on my bloods! I really hope you get your positive soon, it’s such a relentless cycle that just gets worse each month. I don’t let myself get my hopes up now either. I used to think ‘this our month!’ And now I just prepare to be disappointed.

@Pie8er that’s so interesting about the micro biome test, will have to look into that. I’ve also been recommended acupuncture but not given it a go yet! I hope it all works out for you once you’ve had your antibiotics!

@Annapolis35 @Bluenigellas
I hope so! It’s annoying because there’ll be about 1/2 months where we can’t ttc because of the antibiotics, then a retest to see if it’s gone. I’m hoping it’ll be one step back to go two steps forwards.

I had got to the point where I’d try anything…I’m glad I did this test though now!

Yes me 👋🏻 this is just such a tough journey & it’s a lonely one too. We’ve been ttc number two for over 18months now. Your headline grabbed me - I am so fed up of the testing & the hoping but not hoping too much & then you’re crushed. Honestly it is so tough. And then it’s dealing with pregnancy announcements or people saying would you not give him a sibling etc. the tears every month & feeling like I you can’t keep going like this. Whilst been totally grateful for our child & guilty for being unhappy 🤯

It’s a horrible journey to be on , i’m ttc no2 i have a near 4yr old DD , we had a prolonged MMC in march/april at 8 weeks that had failed medical management and then surgical management . Tried everything but nothing and yet both previous pregnancies happened easily

In even more fed up news, finally got date to see gynaecologist, and its not until next January! Referral went in last year! What a joke! Feel like all I do at this point is wait!!!!

I’m so sorry to hear of everyone’s long and painful TTC experiences.

@Lovemusic2015 you have captured the ups and downs so well and the emotional rollercoaster we are on. No wonder we sometimes find it really hard.

@JJM13 I am so sorry for your loss. I am same as you, my last pregnancy happened on the second month and now I’m 15 months down the line wondering what on earth is going on.

@Pie8er I hope it does the trick for you. Yes totally at the trying everything stage. Though I have concluded after trying everything that it’s just down to chance in the end.

@missmoosh That’s a shockingly long wait. We got referred to assisted fertility in June and I am guessing our first appointment will be next year.

Sorry @Bluenigellas eek how come you think you have low progesterone? Well hopefully the bloods will reveal something or at least reassure you. Totally get it with resigning yourself. I’ve stopped even allowing myself any hope as it’s just too painful and crushing.

I'm sorry OP, I know just how heartbreaking each TWW can be.

I had a mmc after 5 months of trying and then tried for another 15 months before finally falling pregnant. It was very hard to cope at times.

We went private and I was prescribed Clomid which worked on the 2nd cycle.

@Annapolis35 so two reasons really, one is I have a short luteal phase (9 or 10 days) which can be a sign but also my BBT is also really slow to rise after ovulation. I do lh tests and monitor cm so pretty certain I know when I ovulate but my temp rises 4-6 days after which is a lot slower than it should. But what do I know, I could be completely wrong! It will be interesting to see what the tests say!
@Lovemusic2015 you have summed that up perfectly! We are also ttc number two and it’s such a bizarre guilt feeling upset when it doesn’t happen when we already have one healthy child.

OP had to jump on here. I was in the same situation - fell pregnant by accident last feb which ended in MMC in April, then decided to ttc properly and tried for 15 months with no joy - then finally got a BFP last week! I was absolutely convinced that the miscarriage had messed my body up somehow - I started getting pain and cramps throughout my cycle which had never happened before. Last month we tried one of those conception lubes which still didn’t work but did give me BV and a UTI so I ended up on antibiotics- and the next cycle I finally got pregnant. I’m still convinced that there was something going on post miscarriage, some kind of low level infection that was stopping me conceiving that the antibiotics happened to sort out and that fixed the issue. Fingers crossed for you 🤞

@Bluenigellas i also have a short luteal phase, around the same but up to 11 days. My progesterone tests were fine if it’s any comfort. But what is true for me might not be true for anyone else!

@OhmygoshREALLY thank you! And congratulations. Your story gives comfort and it’s really nice to see you got a positive. Oh wow about the low level infection. I did wonder if the procedure I had messed something up but I’ve had some antibiotics for something else. I don’t know, but hopefully it’ll work out eventually.

@OhmygoshREALLY can I ask what antibiotics they were?

@Pie8er metronidazole for the BV and something else which I can’t remember (sorry!)
it might just be complete coincidence but I’d been saying pretty much since the mc that everything felt different and ‘wrong’ so who knows 🤷‍♀️