Stress!

[Bobbieiris]

My boyfriend and I have recently started trying to conceive (just over a month ago) but I’m finding it so hard not to put pressure on! My boyfriend works long hours and last night just wasn’t in the mood; which stressed me out as I’m near /in the ovulation window. I’m already exhausted! Anyone got any tips on trying to relax? I’ve considered ditching the ovulation tests and just having sex every 2/3 days to reduce the stress of when he’s working late. Would that reduce my chances? I’m overwhelmed at how down it is making me feel already! Trying to distract myself and not wallow in self pity but it’s hard as it’s constantly on my mind. Any advice?!

I find journalling and mindfulness helps plus booking treats in like massages. Also good communication so hubby is happy for me to ask if he wants to dtd and half the time he's not in the right headspace so that's fine. I also give him the heads up that it's my fertile window coming up but not add pressure. It was helpful for me to realise I can only ask and wear sexy underwear etc and if he's not in the mood he's not in the mood. Also asking for cuddles and just seeing where it takes you both. Finding times when you're both less stressed or maybe before work? You'll be fine, it's a crazy process but you can only do so much and the most important thing is you communicate how you both feel

Plus the NHS recommended 2-3 days and most couples under 35 I think conceive this way within a year. Other couples find it works to track so try different ways maybe