Hi everyone
we have two children, and had a third 8 years later. I always wanted 4, but especially now for number 3 to have a playmate closer in age. It was a struggle to conceive number 3 due to DH erectile dysfunction. Things got worse, and DH can't even get it up now, even if it's a handjob. We been back, and forth to doctors for over a year, and they were reluctant to do anything. They just told him to loose more weight although he is not obese. He is 45 now, so not sure if loosing more weight would make that much of a difference. Anyway, DH really had to push for testosterone treatment after trying for one year, and finally the doctor reluctantly agreed. The dilemma is, i told DH to ask for treatment that does not impact fertility as i would like one more (i believe there are different kinds of testosterone treatment ?), but in the moment he forgot.
Now i don't know what to do... The doctor was very hesitant to help DH, was like drawing water out of stone, and would he even consider changing the testosterone treatment to the one that doesn't impact fertility if we already have three children? I don't want to come across as entitled, i am very thankful for the three that i have, but feel in my heart for one more. I don't know how to even go around trying to change treatment as i feel the doctor may think we are messing him around. He was very cold and unsympathetic towards DH problems.
Alternatively can we try TTC using viagra? Does that harm sperm in any way? That would mean to wait to start the treatment for another year once ive weaned baby, and ready but again i don't think doctors would allow that.
I feel really sad that choice has been taking out of my hands for number 4.