Ectopic pregnancy, now chemical pregnancy first month ttc

[Naomi2023]

Hey ladies, looking for anyone that may have also gone through anything like this and has any experience or advice. Any input or info would be greatly appreciated as im feeling rather low and confused at the moment so here goes, I had an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year and was treated with methotrexate rather than surgery so still have my tube.
First month ttc again after the 12 week wait and I fell pregnant again. Unfortunately started to bleed a few days later so it was an early loss (chemical pregnancy).

I've done some reading up on early losses and it is said that it can be a number of reasons for it happening and one being that it could of been a pregnancy outside of the uterus such as an ectopic, which has got me worried that this was another especially because I still have the tube that the ectopic was in.

Like I have said further up i know they can be a number of reasons for early losses but after having my ectopic and now this loss I can't help feeling that it was another that got stuck in the same tube.
I'm now feeling that i will not concieve succesfully and scared that I may face another ectopic in the future or even if it was not an ectopic that i have just had then they maybe something else wrong too that contributed to me having this early loss.
Sorry for the long post x

@Naomi2023 I'm really sorry to hear you are having a hard time :( it really sucks. I think these consecutive losses are making you feel like it's never going to happen to you, but perhaps I can provide some reassurance.

Ectopic pregnancy is rare, and even among people who have had one there's still only a 10% chance they'll have another. I suspect your chemical was unlikely to be related to a positioning problem, to be honest I think they usually take longer to miscarry than a week or so.

I can relate to what you are feeling though, I had the same thing happen in a different order, I had a chemical in November, followed by an ectopic in January. I also was treated with methotrexate. At the time I just felt like there must be something wrong with me, that I was totally damaged and couldn't have kids and if I got pregnant again the same thing would happen. I am now 8 weeks pregnant (and this time its not ectopic) I promise you, it is possible for you to have a successful pregnancy, it's just in the middle of all this it's really hard to believe it.

Sending positive baby dust to you

@LavenderSweetPea very sorry to hear of your losses, it definitely does really suck 😔 to be honest i didn't think of it maybe taking longer to miscarry if it was ectopic so that's a good point and very positive.
I do feel like that to, that they is something wrong with me and that my body is just broken. Then you have the worry of either starting to bleed and not getting over the early loss period aswell as waiting for the early scan to see if its in the right place for reassurance, it's just stressful, scary and takes away the happiness you should have of finding out your pregnant.
I'm so glad you have gone on to have a successful pregnancy and I'm sending you all the luck in the world and hope you have a very happy and healthy pregnancy 🥰 thankyou soo much for replying you have gave me reassurance, hope and a more positive outlook. I just hope that i have some good luck soon 🙏 x

I think I worded part of my reply wrong. I didn't mean its positive that it maybe wasn't in my tube and just a chemical as its still heartbreaking, just positive that theys probably no need to worry about my tube. I hope I'm making sense 🙈 x

Hi @Naomi2023 I hope you don’t mind, but I came across your post as I’m in a similar situation and looking for hope. How are you getting on?