Trying before wedding or waiting?

[Elixabeth]

Hi everyone

My fiance and I are getting married in June next year and are planning of trying for our first baby straight away.

Would it be worth starting to try before? I don't want to be showing on the wedding day but I'll be 35 and have been kindly told colleague that it will be a geriatric pregnancy 😐

I had an MC early on in the relationship so we know we can get pregnant but I'm aware that I'm not getting any younger.

Any thoughts?

Congrats on the wedding 😊

There's no right or wrong - it will be down to preference and level of risk etc you are comfortable with. But as you know, unfortunately for us women time can sometimes go against us. Also worth considering if you are likely to want more than 1 as obviously waiting pushes the whole timeline back.

My first was born just after my 35th birthday and I had a textbook pregnancy and conceived him 4th cycle. Currently trying for number 2 at 37 and conceived again 3rd cycle but unfortunately ended in a MMC at 12wks. Now back to square 1 and will be at least 38 when a rainbow baby is born.

There is just no knowing if you will get a plain sailing experience or not. For that reason, I usually advise the 'just get on with it' approach over waiting it out. You only have so many fertile years. Pretty much everything else is more flexible. Good luck! 😊

hmmm. I had a nearly 2 year engagement and got pregnant during it. I was 3 months pp at the wedding. It was awfully stressful and I wouldn’t recommend a wedding with a young baby in an ideal world, but I’m so glad we didn’t wait until after the wedding, just in case I then wasn’t able to have children because it was too late.

So if it was me, I would prefer to be pregnant (showing or not showing) at my wedding then potentially regret the decision to have waited later on because of my age. A wedding is only one day and yes it is extremely important, but imo it’s not something to completely plan your life around.

Having said that, I can also understand wanting to wait. being pregnant at your wedding isn’t ideal because you can’t be as carefree and can’t drink, you might be having pregnancy sickness even after 1st trimester, you can’t eat certain things.