Anyone else trying to "wait" to get pg?

[Katherine]

The title of the other thread tickled me as I am waiting for my period after a mc (no. 3) before we can try again. With my first mc I didn't have a period before getting pg again (didn't think things would get going again that quickly) and subsequently had a second loss which everyone blamed on the fact that I hadn't waited. So pretty paranoid this time. DH thinks he is in heaven as we have our sex life back after three months of non-interest so its hard to stop and be sensible when we so want to try again. First few times my paranoia helped out but the other night we threw caution to the wind again and am now queesy and nervous (surely not!).

Just wondered if anyone else was in the same boat. Might help to lighten it up a bit if we can have a giggle together.

Yoo don't say when you mc. I had an early miscarriage before ds2 and got pregnant with him almost immediately afterwards. I was expecting to be lectured about not waiting, but the woman who ran the early pregnancy unit just said "well done you". I think for early mc especially waiting makes absolutely no difference to the outcome of the pregnancy- I've read that it's outdated advice- if you're emotionally ready to go for it again do- and don't let anyone make you feel guilty!

Sorry not to lighten it up, but I'm with jimjams- got pregnant a month to the day after my m/c (at 8 and a half weeks) - although like you we'd been trying hard not to - not that tricky cos I was bleeding for about three weeks. Wonder if the build up of sperm when folks have been "waiting" means you're more likely to fall preggers??
Don't let anyone make you feel guilty about your second m/c - I am sure there's no evidence to support blaming it on early conception. If the queasiness is what you're nervous about all I can say is good luck!

I understand that people used to be told to wait so that they had a period from which to work out an EDD and it's nothing to do with your/the new baby's health. It was a matter of convenience. Good luck!

Hi I'm new and this is one of my my 1st postings. I had a my 6th MC back in August and have desided to wait until Feb 2003 before we try again, but it's very difficult and DH hates condoms although I prefere them as he gets left with the mess to sort out and not me. LOL :-D

Anyway back on the folic acid tablets, is it me or do they make you burp!!

Any way I'm from Devon, a Registered Childminder (one of the nice ones been childminding for almost 12 years, been reading about some dreadful ones on here!). Have three sons, one husband and two rats. I'm into cloth nappies well not me but my minded kids, fairly active in the NCT, & I coordinate their Houseswap Register.

Hi, v. interesting thread Katherine ...

My doctor said that we should wait for 2 periods after the mc... ie, let the first one come, then have a clear month, then another period. He said it was to make sure that the lining of my uterus was healthy etc.

I would love to go for it asap (mc only 2 weeks ago - haven't even resumed sexual relations yet ... DH is getting very desperate poor love ) as I don't want DS to be too old before he has a DB or DSis (he is 3 on Saturday)

Also I read that if you get pg too soon before you have grieved properly you increase your chances of PND with the next baby and as I had that with DS I do not want to repeat that ...

Oh, decisions, decisions!

HI All. Well my queasiness went so I don't think I'm pg - yet! Still struggling to make it to the drawer IYKWIM!

I don't actually FEEL guilty about my 2nd mc - I titally agree I'm sure there is no evidence that getting pg again quickly is the cause but my problem was that everyone seemed to WANT to make me feel guilty and I'm sick of all those comments. But the biggest thing keeping me in check this time is the thought of being pg over Christmas. This year DS and DD are both at those perfect ages.DS climbs into bed in the morning and asks if its snowing yet because he wants it to be xmas so he can open his pressies. Awwwww!
I don't want anything to take the edge off the fun this year.

Devon mum - welcome. I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. I've never had problems with burping from folic acid but I am convinced they caused me to really bad sunburn this summer. I've never burned like that before and the only thing I can think is that I was taking folic. I was horrendously itchy sunburn too