Just that really.
I'm 36, 37 later this year. Husband is same age. Own our home (well, almost, mortgage free within the next 10-15 years dependent on mortgage rates). He works full time from home, I work part time in an admin role with pretty decent maternity benefits. Childcare costs could be an issue but we managed before on a lot less income than we have now.
We have 2 children, aged 8 and 14 (almost 9 and 16).
Both husband and I are health weight, non smokers, non drinkers, non drug users. No health conditions.
I don't know it's because of my age or because my eldest won't be home much longer (university plans in next 3-4 years). But I can't get the thought of a 3rd child out of my head. I always thought we were done at 2 but I'm so incredibly broody it won't let up.
My husband has said if I really want a third he's happy to go for it but would be just as happy stopping at 2.
I had eclampsia and HELLP syndrome with my eldest with a c section delivery at 31 weeks. Multiple miscarriages in between then a 3 day labour, failed forceps and emergency c section with our youngest, followed by a haemorrhage and a blood transfusion. No pre eclampsia with youngest but was in and out of hospital with my blood pressure. Also had to have some additional surgery after they were born as I had a major hernia.
As I write those things out it makes me realise a third may be risky. But I can't get the thought out of my head. I plan on speaking to my GP and maternity consultant to see if I would be supported.
Has anyone had a 3rd when previous pregnancies were high risk?
Thank you