Anyone trying for DC3?

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We are still on the fence! All the other posts on other boards about 3 kids are quite negative, so thought I’d canvas opinions from people who have decided to go for it!

What age are your existing DCs? Ours would be just over 3 and almost 6 if we conceived straight away (2.5 years between them).

Way too expensive and knackering.

Personally I can’t imagine ever regretting a child. I know it’s very hard at times but the love outweighs that. Having said that I am pregnant with my third and I am anxious about it all! X

Dithered for so long that now I worry it won't happen/age gap too big....ultimately can you afford (money and time) the ones you have?
If you have one, they're much of a muchness aren't they and more to love?!
Wow I'm not normally this vom inducing...

Yes me! 🙂

I was going back and forth for ages read all the threads etc and then we decided to finally go for it last year, and I fell pregnant with my third, I was in shock at first because it happened right away and I was kind of thinking "what have we done" for the first few weeks then it sunk in and we were very excited, unfortunately it ended in a miscarriage, so now I have been ttc since and after everything that happened last year, I am so very certain now about a third and actually regret the time I spent waiting.

Lol at the very first response being exactly the kind of thing I’d hoped to avoid by posting on the conception board!

@Ladyinpink1 sorry about your mc. How old are your other kids?

Thank you. Mine are now age 3.5 and 6 in a couple of months. How does your dp feel about a 3rd?

It's funny, deciding on dc2 was easy I found but deciding on dc3 Is really hard isn't it

Mine were exactly those gaps. Now 6, 3 and 6 months.

it’s been my easiest transition so far for lots of reasons - but I was always quite hopeful for 3 and it was deliberate so had a long time to get my head around it.

We don’t have family nearby and DH works long hours so of course there are crazy times where I’m run ragged but I felt like that with two!

The 3yo got the 30hrs not long after baby born, so that helped. I feel really pleased that we didn’t wait and have a larger gap between baby and eldest.

Its a very personal decision of course but the logistics are manageable if it’s what you hope for your family

we’ve just agreed today to try for a third. we have a 2 year old and a 5 month old so we are evidently insane but i love the chaos 😂

We will be trying for a third in April. I have always grown up wanting a big family and will have a 3.5 and 1.5 year old when we start trying. I had two happy and healthy pregnancies and births so my biggest worry is that we are pushing our luck and may experience problems this time around but I will just have to remain optimistic!

I went in to my 2nd pregnancy thinking we would have more so I feel I didn’t embrace that and the newborn stage enough to not go for it again! I also found going from 1 to 2 easier than 0 to 1 so this has also strengthened my want for another (and slightly scared that 2 to 3 will go the opposite way!)

Good Luck on your journey if you decide to go for it! X

DH and I are currently discussing trying for DC3. Following with interest!

Mine are 8, 3.5 and 6 months. It's a great age gap as the 3yo is toilet trained and happy to play independently when I'm caring for the baby. And the 8yo can be helpful.

I guess the downside is that they all have very distinct needs, and when baby starts school the eldest will start secondary school so there won't be an overlap there.

We try to spend time with the big kids on their own where we can. So in the school holidays when the 3yo is still at preschool, I'll take the eldest out for a milkshake or activity. And I get time with the 3yo on his own when eldest is at school and baby is with the nanny or a grandparent.

Everything is definitely busier and noisier with 3, but that's what I love about it. The 2-3 transition was the easiest by far. You sort of care for the baby on autopilot while parenting the others, and the baby is so enthralled with the big kids there is built in entertainment.

Definitely go for it!

And while I'd like another, my dh is very very sure that he is done, so I'm absolutely enjoying every cuddle and moment with the baby as she's my last and I know exactly how quickly it goes by!