Struggling to conceive after miscarriage. Losing hope…

[RainbowMama23]

Hello everyone
Looking for advice or reassurance. I am really losing hope.

I had a miscarriage in 2020, conceived again and gave birth to my now 2 year old daughter. Then we started trying again and I had another miscarriage. That one ended in a d&c surgery. In all 3 pregnancies, I conceived very quickly, (within 3 months)

However, since the surgery in December, I have struggled to conceive. It has been over 6 months and nothing.

am I being paranoid or is it possible the surgery has affected my fertility.

I am so depressed all the time and I know that only getting pregnant again will fill the void after the miscarriage but it’s just not happening.

I conceived my first try with my son, when we decided to try again I conceived first cycle but miscarried (and had a d&c). It took me a full year to conceive again but I did and I had twins!

I was sure something must had gone wrong because conceiving had been so easy before but it just took time. I hope that gives you some hope x

Are your periods back to normal and do you know (when) you're ovulating?

As you'll probably remember from the surgery consent form there is a very low possibility of scarring from the MVA.

How old are you?

Hey lovely, yep my periods are normal and I use OPKs so I’m pretty sure when I ovulate too (I don’t temp though)

I’m 27 years old

Yeah I’m sure you’re right, I think I’m just being paranoid because it was so easy to conceive before the surgery, even though the pregnancies didn’t stick :(

do you reckon it’s just a waiting game? i feel so empty and sad since the miscarriage :(

I’m so sorry about your loss and the year you had to wait 💔 but I’m thrilled to hear you got a happy ending with the twins! How wonderful 😍💛💛💛

yeah that’s what I’m paranoid about, that something has gone wrong! Did you go to the doctor and bring up your concerns at all during that year? i feel like they won’t take me seriously at this stage :(

but your story does give me some hope xx

Hi OP. Like you I lost my first and then had a healthy baby boy followed by another 3 miscarriages. I too felt very sad and a bit confused. Took a little longer to get pregnant each time and we almost gave up but in the end we had another boy - what a joy! Don’t be too hard on yourself, take comfort in the company of your daughter- you have many amazing years ahead. You are still young - just see what happens but life’s good - enjoy your family time

i feel so empty and sad since the miscarriage :(

I'm so sorry to hear this.

Suggest you give yourself a month off trying - you have time, and you don't need to restart the clock when it comes to seeking additional help (if it comes to that). Totally take the pressure off. Do things that you love, alone, with your partner, with friends. Relish being able to eat and drink and do the things you can't when you are pregnant/have a newborn.

If you're looking for some comfort and solidarity you might appreciate the Worst Girl Gang Ever podcast

I'm sorry OP, it's so upsetting when TTC takes longer than expected.

I fell pregnant after 4 months with DS.
I then took 5 months the next time but miscarried.
It then took a whopping 15 months to fall the 3rd time.

It was horrible when it wasn't happening. Hopefully it won't be much longer for you.

so sorry about your losses 💔 that must have been so so heartbreaking. I’m so glad your second boy arrived safely though 😍 do you know what worked for you in the end? Did you do anything differently or get any treatment? Or was it just a matter of time?

and I’m sure you’re right, I feel so guilty that I’m distracted by the heartbreak of loss and ttc that I’m not fully present with my daughter like I should be. I just hope I can give her a sibling one day.

So sorry about your loss, those 15 months following it must have been so so difficult and long. 😢 I hope your 3rd pregnancy went well!

and I hope I’ll be on the other side of this soon too x

It was just a matter of time. Hospital did monitor more closely. I agree with the PP who said to take the pressure off yourself. Good luck

I had a mmc in Jan 2020 and it took over 3 years for me to conceive again. This is my 5th pregnancy and all my others were conceived within 4 months. I've no idea why it took so long this time but I'm 10 weeks now. I hope you manage to conceive soon

I had 3 miscarriages, two of those pregnancies happened within 6 months but one took 14 months to conceive. I had surgery for endometriosis and within a few months I was pregnant and had DC who is now 3.

I think sometimes these things take time but it can take up to 2 years for some women to fall pregnant, as horrible as it is, it sounds within the normal range.

Good luck and I hope you're pregnant again soon.
💐

Can't hurt to make sure your other half is eating healthily (walnuts + diet high in antioxidants, cutting back on alcohol/caffeine, not smoking etc). If his swimmers are strong and healthy then that's important too.

Thank you so much for all your advice ladies.

I ended up going to a private doctor and a blood test showed that I had a hormonal imbalance. I was prescribed progesterone which will will hopefully help. I’m sad to find out something isn’t right, but I’m glad that at least now we know.

let’s just hope the progesterone helps.

has anyone else been on it before?

Hi ladies just wanted to give a little update. I got my BFP today! In the first month I was on the progesterone pills so perhaps that was what I needed or maybe it was a coincidence that it happened this month. Either way, I really hope this one sticks!

thanks for all your support ladies.

Best of luck. 🤞for you.

@RainbowMama23 congrats ! That is great news . Can I ask what test you had done before going on progesterone?

Yey, congratulations!! Wonderful news.