Nervous about TTC

[WithLoveLily]

Hi everyone, we are going to start trying for a baby in June.

I’ve been tracking my periods for 5 years and started tracking my ovulation this month (May). I’m also tracking my body temp, taking all the vitamins and have pre-seed and a Ferti-Lily conception cup ready to go. I’m due to ovulate around 10th June.

I know how normal it is for conception to take up to a year but I know how upset I’m going to feel if we don’t get a positive the first month. Completely irrational thinking!

Has anyone experienced similar nerves and have any advice for how I can relax during the build up? I know there’s nothing more I can do to increase our chances.

Any wise words would be so greatly appreciated and I’d love to hear anyone’s stories of how the TTC journey went after having done all these things too.

Thank you xx

Personally we took the 'expect the worse so you won't be disappointed' approach and both me and DH really did imagine we would be there a year later without getting pregnant and having to go to the doctors. Anyway, it happened on the second month so we were very lucky.

I think you need to try and be as chilled as possible as you really will get stressed and wind yourself up if it doesn't happen straight away. Like you said it can take up to a year and be normal. So my advice is just enjoy yourself and go with it if you can.

Hello!

I know from experience how nerve wracking it can be trying to conceive as it took myself and my husband 3 years to have our son (i do have bad endometriosis though)

i was so upset every month until the month before i fell pregnant i had had enough of feeling this way and kind of just threw in the towel and said to myself “if its meant to be it will be” and to stop over analyzing and obsessing over everything. I then fell pregnant. My husband never doubted that we would have a baby but being a woman its so hard to not obsess and stress.

All i can say to you (and i know its hard to do) is enjoy the process, tell yourself that when its meant to happen it will happen and when you do have your baby know that it happened when it did because the baby in your arms was the baby you were destined to be a mum for.

i hope this helps you in some way and i hope you get your little one soon x

It is a nerve wrecking lead up as you just don't know what the expect. I think it's completely normal to worry.

We have just started trying but I have had two previous MMC from accidents. I also have pcos.
One thing that really eased my mind was going for a fertility MOT to check all my levels and hormones - having them come back OK really helped my mindset. DP also had a check (because of an unrelated ttc issue) and it came back excellent (woohoo!)
I just found knowing more was better for me.

It sounds like your doing all the right things in prep😊

we didn’t really plan ahead to start trying, and I’m not doing anything apart from regular sex! If nothing after a year, will start ovulation tests. I’m just assuming it will take a while, that’s normal.

If you start this stressed and worried then it’ll only get worse. Unless there’s a backstory just have some regular sex for a few months and it will happen. If it doesn’t then worry