should i feel guilty?

[pinky36]

I could be pregnant, due to an accident with split condom! It wouldn't be the end of the world for me, but very unsure about my DH! But thats not who im most worried about, my brother and sister in law have been tryin for years, havin had many unsuccessful attempts at IVF and lots of heartache along the way, they are now in the end stages of the adoption process and could have a child by the end of the year! Hows it going to look if i end up pregnant havin got 2 grown up children already? Its makin me feel ill just thinking about it!

Opinions and advice, much appreciated! x

No you should not feel guilty. You can't live or be responsible for other peoples lives - however much you love them.

Sure your brother and sister in law may have feelings about you having a child they can't but that is for them to deal with.

They should be happy for you and hopefully look forward to having their child by the end of the year.

You might not even be pregnant but if you are my advice would be to concentrate on your and your husbands feelings about this. x

Hi pinky, Its is hard when you are close to someone who is trying desparately for children and for you it just happens, my best friend is in same situation, her si and bil are having all sorts of tests at the mo and she just found out she is pg. i wont lie and say there is no resentment it would be unatural for there not to be. I know even when i was trying everytime i saw a pg woman i felt so jealous! However it will be short lived and although awkward to start with I am sure that they will be happy for you, especially if you explain how you feel and why.

you seem to like the idea of being pg again what makes you think dh wont be as happy?

xx

sandyho
After years of ups and downs in our 15 years marraige, 2 children 11 and 14, we are all very settled and happy! Not sure how DH will feel, after all this time, kids independant more sex, more money etc.

I see, you have your life back to a certain extent. I can understand why your concerned. You have to do whats best for you and your family but unless you talk to him you will never know and you may be worrying without reason. you can either wait until you know for def and then approach it if you are or tell him now and go through the waiting together (personally i would do the latter- it will be hard thinking about it on your own and he may be upset you didnt tell him) I wish i could make it all better for you

xx

sandyho

Thankyou so much for your sensible advice, its so nice 2 get good honest advice from someone who is totally uninvolved with you personally! I'm still unsure whether to involve DH at this point, as have a very long 2 weeks to wait for my AF to arrive, so dont want to freak him out unecessarily! will continue to talk to Mnetters as it feels good to offload! Thanks again, and will keep u posted> x