Frustrated TTC

[NutellaBaby]

It's been 11 months and no luck. CD26 of usually a 27-29 day cycle. Thought it was finally our month as had no symptons didn't even feel ovulation so thought perhaps no sympton spotting might be our time. For the past two days I've been ill,started with a sore throat, blocked nose and a cough and now day when I wiped I had brown discharge quite a bit of if. I usually always get it before AF so despite always convincing myself of it being IB it turns into AF. Nothing yet no actual period pains though slight twinges on the right side.

I just wish by some miracle this turns into an actual pregnancy. I had read online that getting randomly ill is a sign for some people. But the brown discharge has gotten me upset.

Really frustrated, why isn't it happening for us. I feel so sad every month it happens. Just so upsetting. Anyone experience this and get pregnant. I just want to give up and accept I wont have kids and then I see friends with babies and it upsets me so much.

I feel the same currently on cycle 10 and feel like I just can’t get pregnant and I’m wasting my time and energy. There were times where I was so sure I was pregnant but I wasn’t.

Same exact feelings. Just so tired and upset like will it even happen. And then there is truly that possibility that it will never and I know it will break me. I just feel angry at myself that I should have started sooner and perhaps my luck would have been different. I am so annoyed at myself for delaying starting. Even though I'm 31 but feel so awful that perhaps I caused this by delaying

I'm sorry OP, it's a horrible and depressing drag at times.

It took me 20 months the 2nd time and it really made me despair at times (particularly in the days leading up to my period).

What I will say is, with DS1, my miscarriage and my current pregnancy, the one symptom I always had in the tww was a scratchy throat. So you never know!

@NutellaBaby I'm totally with you on this. CD2 today heading in to month 17 trying for #1.
I can't give you a positive story of pregnancy but I definitely understand how you're feeling.
Everyone around me is either pregnant or just recently had a baby and I sometimes feel that it must just not be in my life's story.

I've also read about getting cold/flu symptoms as a sign so I hope for you this is it! X

Just wanted to say sending you lots of love. I feel like if someone said to me “you will definitely get pregnant by 15 months” the long wait wouldn’t feel so difficult coz at least we’d know it’s going to happen. It’s the uncertainty that makes you think it will never happen and jump to worst case scenario. Be gentle with yourself 💖

Totally understand what you're going through. We've been ttc first baby for about a year. Had my coil out in March 22, missed first fertile window, then had 10 cycles tracking ov and trying properly. Had a break for 2 cycles for honeymoon, then had one more cycle since we've been back. I'm currently on CD 4 of cycle 12.

I feel a bit less upset than I did a few months ago, but I do find it easier when I just withdraw from thinking too much about babies and children. Unfortunately this means I'm now keeping my distance from my friends, as I find it hard to be around other people who inevitably moan about their own children.

Don't think that you won't have kids.
Once it gets to 12 months, go to see a GP with your DH and you'll both be referred for fertility tests.
Wish you all the best.

I've been trying for 15 months so far. 10 months of natural trying before discovering DH has low sperm. We've had two chemicals 6 months apart from each other while trying on our own, tracking cycles and pinpointing ovulation to the exact day, then a failed FET this passed March. Am now going for my second FET in June and it will be nearly a year and a half of trying if that also fails.

In all that time, a colleague at work got pregnant and gave birth. A couple across the road from me got pregnant with their second child and gave birth. Now based on a recent piece of information imparted to me from my manager as I let him know about my appointment that I had today, it's looking like his girlfriend might be pregnant.

The truth of it is that for some couples, it can be just absolute, complete and utter shit. With some shit piled on top of that shit. And a sprinkling of rabbit dropping shit on top of that shit.

Your time will come.