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Deflated after our first fertility appt today. Advice please..

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Khanny · 27/04/2023 17:58

Hey everyone, so me and my husband went for our first fertility appt today and it wasn’t good news. He’s discharged my husband already as his semen analysis results were fine and he said my blood tests and scans were all relatively normal so IVF is our only option😥We cannot afford this treatment and it won’t be funded as I have 2 children from a previous relationship (they are 21 & 19 so not recent pregnancies). He said if anything my FSH was slightly high but nothing out of the ordinary for my age…I’m 42. I have been tracking BBT which never shows a pattern and I track opks which hardly ever show a line at all let alone a positive line but yet there was no mention of clomid. I did persuade them to give me a hsg but I can’t book that in until I start AF and I am now on CD44 with no sign of it coming. I’m so upset I have cried all day and as my husband is younger than me I am feeling like I should let him go find somebody younger who can give him a child. My heart is so broken right now. Is there anything I can take to help ovulation at all? Thanks for reading if you got this far x

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FfeminyddCymraeg · 27/04/2023 18:09

I’m sorry it wasn’t better news. I can imagine how upsetting it must be to not have a reason why you aren’t conceiving.

However, if you aren’t eligible for NHS IVF (and I think it’s right that you shouldn’t be if you already have DC) then funding private should be your priority. Maybe look at upping your income through a second job etc? Could you afford to get a private consultant and pay for clomid yourself?

If you’re unable to afford it then I’m not sure what else you can do, except for keep trying and hoping it’ll happen? Gently, at 42, getting pregnant is never guaranteed for anybody.

SquashPenguin · 27/04/2023 18:34

I agree with PP, privately funding clomid or letrozole yourself would be a lot cheaper than IVF. I paid about £450 a month and did it for four months. It would be worth speaking to a consultant about the success rates of this at 42 so you get your moneys worth.

custardbear · 27/04/2023 18:54

That's rubbish. I had difficulties and researched it and used Agnus castus to ttc - it worked for me - have a read up and see what you could try. High concentration evening primrose oil too (up to ovulation only)
Good luck

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Khanny · 27/04/2023 20:23

FfeminyddCymraeg · 27/04/2023 18:09

I’m sorry it wasn’t better news. I can imagine how upsetting it must be to not have a reason why you aren’t conceiving.

However, if you aren’t eligible for NHS IVF (and I think it’s right that you shouldn’t be if you already have DC) then funding private should be your priority. Maybe look at upping your income through a second job etc? Could you afford to get a private consultant and pay for clomid yourself?

If you’re unable to afford it then I’m not sure what else you can do, except for keep trying and hoping it’ll happen? Gently, at 42, getting pregnant is never guaranteed for anybody.

Hi thanks for replying. I work full time and over 45 minutes travel time both to and from so another job would be difficult to commit to.

I don’t know what to say or what to try to be honest, I feel a bit numb at the moment xx

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Khanny · 27/04/2023 20:27

SquashPenguin · 27/04/2023 18:34

I agree with PP, privately funding clomid or letrozole yourself would be a lot cheaper than IVF. I paid about £450 a month and did it for four months. It would be worth speaking to a consultant about the success rates of this at 42 so you get your moneys worth.

Thank you, I have been on Google since we got home this afternoon but there’s so much information my brain feels so whooshy.

Think I need bed tonight and a fresh mindset tomorrow with a pen and notepad xx

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Khanny · 27/04/2023 20:30

custardbear · 27/04/2023 18:54

That's rubbish. I had difficulties and researched it and used Agnus castus to ttc - it worked for me - have a read up and see what you could try. High concentration evening primrose oil too (up to ovulation only)
Good luck

Thank you, I took agnus Castus and evening primrose oil a couple of months ago but my AF ended up being really delayed (60+ day cycle) so I stopped.
After the appt today I’m seriously thinking of starting taking them again. What have I got to lose xx

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BritishDesiGirl · 30/04/2023 12:16

@Khanny Start taking my insotil . It's a supplement l believe it helped me concierge second baby. I got it abroad, available here but very expensive in sachet form. It helps with egg quality and ovulation.

Coq 10 contains it to. Available in Boots it's £20.

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Khanny · 30/04/2023 13:58

BritishDesiGirl · 30/04/2023 12:16

@Khanny Start taking my insotil . It's a supplement l believe it helped me concierge second baby. I got it abroad, available here but very expensive in sachet form. It helps with egg quality and ovulation.

Coq 10 contains it to. Available in Boots it's £20.

Hi thank you. I have some soy isoflavone coming today that I was going try but I have had an anovulatory cycle so have no idea when AF will turn up in order to start them.

At what point in the cycle can Myo inositol be taken? X

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BritishDesiGirl · 30/04/2023 14:41

@Khanny

You take it for a full month, which is what l did. My sachets were my insotil and folic acid combined.

HeathenPlayingHouse · 30/04/2023 16:50

I would recommend Myo-inositol as well, I tried for 4 years and finally got a BFP after taking it for 6 weeks.

It can be taken all throughout the cycle. I haven't tried the sachets, though- I buy it in tablet form from Amazon, it works out around £15-20 per month.

somuchtolearnabout · 30/04/2023 17:25

Although very upsetting for you, I do agree that NHS funded IVF isn't fair as you're clearly capable of conceiving and birthing a child. And as your husband's sperm analysis came back clear then there is equally nothing they can offer from that perspective either.

What was it you were hoping they would suggest? Private funding whatever help you may need was only ever really going to be an option and I'm unsure why they even offered you an initial fertility appt at all considering you do already have children. Have they suggested what else may help as a stepping stone before committing to IVF?

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Khanny · 30/04/2023 17:42

HeathenPlayingHouse · 30/04/2023 16:50

I would recommend Myo-inositol as well, I tried for 4 years and finally got a BFP after taking it for 6 weeks.

It can be taken all throughout the cycle. I haven't tried the sachets, though- I buy it in tablet form from Amazon, it works out around £15-20 per month.

Ahh that’s great thank you!
I am going to take 5 days of soy isoflavones starting tonight to see if kick starts anything as I have bought them now and have already spent so much of the different supplements! Saving your post however so that I can fall back to it if the SI doesn’t work🙏🤞🏻xx

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