I (35f) and my dp (39m) have been trying for dc2 for about 3 months. We fell pregnant with dc1 within a few months, but that was a few years ago.
We have just had a fertility check up. All seems fine on dp's side, but my results aren't quite so rosy. It's not awful, but the word that is being bandied about is 'borderline'. This is based on a scan, and blood test results are due in the next few days, but I've always had regular periods, and fell pregnant quickly last time, so this is not something I saw coming and it has honestly really affected me in a way I did not anticipate. I'm crying a lot, and just so sad, which isn't really like me. It feels like a form of grief.
I know how lucky I am to have 1 dc. But I have always wanted 2, and I feel as though that's unlikely to happen now. It seems as though I read about women in their late 30s and 40s having children all the time and the disconnect between that and my personal experience is just vast.
Has anyone else been in this position, or a similar one?I just don't know how to handle this. Is it as hopeless as it feels?