To book a long haul holiday when I may be pregnant?

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Hi everyone!

So I would just like to hear a few opinions on this, as me and DH have different opinions.

We have been waiting a few years for the right time to TTC and finally we have bought a house and are stable etc. My DH is currently studying a qualification to be able to get a promotion and things are falling into place a little bit more.

The only thing that is now stopping us is our dream trip to America. We are decorating our new house but with the spare bit of money that we have left over each month we are putting it into savings for our America trip. This is going to take us a while, I don't see us having the funds to book it until the end of the year, so the trip will probably be in a year's time.

I know it's not really that long to wait and my head does tell me to just wait and enjoy our big holiday as a free couple before TTC. However my heart has been aching for a baby for 4 years now and it isn't getting any easier. I will be 30 in a few months so we aren't pressed for time exactly, however you never know how long it's going to take. Is it sensible to start sooner rather than later and not delay, or is it more sensible to just wait another 12 months for the trip that we have both been dreaming of for years?

Our original plan was that America was going to be April (but then we bought a house instead so we had to move the USA trip back) and TTC in the summer time, about July/August.

DH thinks we should just get on with it and TTC later this year and if I am pregnant for America so what? But I wonder whether I will be able to enjoy it? I have never flown long haul before and am already not keen on flying so not sure how the added stress of possibly being pg would affect it. Plus wouldn't I be tired or sick etc and too exhausted to walk around exploring? I don't know if I'm just overthinking it. Would you just wait and enjoy your trip without the extra worry as it's not TOO much longer really, or just get on with TTC?

I would appreciate some advice and opinions. I feel like maybe I am just being impatient for TTC but I've waited so many years with this overwhelming feeling of wanting a baby that it's very hard to ignore now. But equally I might regret it if it impacts our dream holiday they we have spent thousands on

You'll have THE best time! Our itinerary looked like this:
2 nights in LA - Santa Monica, Venice Beach, Observatory and lunch in Beverly Hills (we hiked to the observatory to watch sunrise on our 1st morning as we were awake at 4am due to time difference)
3 nights Yosemite staying at Rush Creek Lodge. AMAZING!
1 night in an air B&B near Bodie ghost town. This was fun but added a huge drive onto the journey so wouldn't do this part again.
3 nights San Francisco - loved it but next time would stay near Fisherman's Wharf as felt a little unsafe at Union Square. Cycle to Sausalito and Alcatraz top of the list!
Then made our way down the coast with 1 night stays in Pismo Beach, Carmel and Santa Barbara.
Santa Barbara is gorgeous, highly recommended and worth an extra night or 2. Not much to see at Pismo Beach. Carmel and Monterey are great.
Finished with 3 nights at Laguna Beach to chill out before flying home.
Stopped off at Hearst Castle too which is fantastic.
The whole trip was truly amazing and its hard to pick my favourite places as they all have something different to offer.
I'm so jealous! We hope to go back once our toddlers are older 🙂

I personally would say go enjoy your amazing holiday. I really enjoyed being pregnant but ended up on bed rest for the first trimester, mobility issues for the second and third and hg right up until 3rd trimester. Oh and gd. We went on a babymoon just to majorca and it was lovely but honestly the traveling to get there nearly broke me. I was extremely uncomfortable sitting on the plane and the transfer to the hotel to the point I was nearly in tears which is not like me. I was glad we went and I loved being by the pool etc but needed to recover a little from the journey home. If it's a big hol you want to make the most of then I'd say go enjoy it and have a blast because you don't know how your body will react to pregnancy. Or do a more chilled holiday and do the US one later with a tiny person while they're still easy transported!

If it was me.. I’d wait. I’ve been desperate for a baby for years and we planned to get married in 2020 until covid hit and ruined all our plans. We delayed until 2021 but our day wasn’t going to be as we had pictured with restrictions still in place so we delayed again until 2022. I was so worried about TTC as I was entering my early 30s. We considered putting off until 2023 and trying for a baby but with the uncertainty of how long it would take, I already had my dress etc. And quite selfishly, I wanted our 2 week honeymoon child free!

Now I’m so glad I waited.. we got married last July, went to Mauritius on honeymoon and started TTC in October. I fell pregnant in January and am now 12weeks. I’ll be nearly 34 when I have the baby but I don’t feel that age! Even for the wedding alone I’m glad we waited instead of going ahead with restrictions.

I’d pause the decorating, save for your trip, have the most amazing time and then start trying for your family when you’re back. The way I’ve felt this first trimester I couldn’t have thought of anything worse than getting on a plane and trying to enjoy a holiday 🤢🤣 but I understand everyone is different!

I would do the trip first. Funnily enough we started TTC after a trip to America too! It took us a long time but everyone is different, you may conceive super quickly.

I travelled a couple of times in my first pregnancy, at 6 weeks and 15 weeks, and really struggled with fatigue and dizziness both times. Those were just European city breaks. Thankfully I/we did our big dream trips before having kids.
I'm pregnant again now though and we've got family holidays booked this year when I'll be 22 weeks but that'll be a more chilled holiday.
I fully endorse prioritising the holiday over decorating, so you can ttc sooner and sort the house out while you are trying/pregnant. Nesting is very real so pregnancy is a great time to do it actually!

I travelled both pregnancies but v early on and only short haul. Fortunately I never suffered with sickness at all so no issues. It's funny for my 2nd we were looking to go to Vegas (big birthday) but fortunately decided on a family friendly holiday instead as I don't think I would've fancied it pregnant. At the end of the day you can't really plan these things, life has a way of just working when it's meant to.

I’d prioritise the trip over house decorating and go asap. Decorating can wait! But there’s no point planning anything when it comes to TTC.