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Would you try for a January baby?

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movingonup2022 · 12/03/2023 09:08

DH and I want to start TTC now we’ve finally moved house. If I fell pregnant on my next cycle - lucky/unlikely I know - I’d be due on 1st January 😬 so baby would most likely have an early January birthday. Is this the worst time for a person to have a birthday, right after Christmas when everyone is depressed and it’s cold & dark outside? gifts and parties all crammed into two weeks of the year then nothing?
am I overthinking this? I’m mid 30s as well so wary of skipping cycles

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ttcat37 · 12/03/2023 21:15

As some balance, we’re TTC our first and I’m 37. We have a very stressful and expensive month every March due to having so many family events. We’ll be having time off TTC to avoid a March baby.

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movingonup2022 · 01/04/2023 11:47

Now heading into my fertile period and still undecided whether we are trying this month or skipping til May! 😬

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teacakecrumbs · 01/04/2023 11:49

I really hate my January birthday. I can never have the kind of fun celebrations others do as it just doesn’t work out.

I’d still try for a January baby though!

TheJudgeandJury · 01/04/2023 11:55

movingonup2022 · 01/04/2023 11:47

Now heading into my fertile period and still undecided whether we are trying this month or skipping til May! 😬

It's kind of silly to skip a cycle when TTC - my baby was due 19th November and came 26th October ..

PuttingOnTheKitsch · 01/04/2023 11:59

I've got two January babies. We love it as their birthdays brighten up an otherwise dull month. They've never minded either.

Mushroo · 01/04/2023 13:53

movingonup2022 · 01/04/2023 11:47

Now heading into my fertile period and still undecided whether we are trying this month or skipping til May! 😬

Snap! I would actually be due about 31 December if it happens this month 🙈.

Im cracking on — I hate new year anyway and hopefully the maternity ward would be a bit quieter!

Mushroo · 01/04/2023 13:54

movingonup2022 · 01/04/2023 11:47

Now heading into my fertile period and still undecided whether we are trying this month or skipping til May! 😬

Snap! I would actually be due about 31 December if it happens this month 🙈.

Im cracking on — I hate new year anyway and hopefully the maternity ward would be a bit quieter!

Floralnomad · 01/04/2023 13:59

We had our first in early January because we basically didn’t plan or give it any thought . As he’s got older it has become more difficult to buy for his birthday and he doesn’t like getting money or clothes . We planned the second one for May/ june / July and that worked . If I was mid 30s going for a first I’d start trying ASAP

PurpleSpottedLeopard · 01/04/2023 14:17

My due date was 1st Jan but baby came a few days early and so far it’s been lovely. When I wanted to just snuggle at home with baby the weather was grey and miserable and now I’m ready to go out more we are getting some nice bright spring days. I’m a little bit younger than you (early 30s) and it took us over a year to conceive. If you’re ready for a baby now I wouldn’t waste an opportunity.

HistoryFanatic · 01/04/2023 14:21

As someone who has had years of infertility don't waste time. Anytime of the year can be rubbish for a birthday.

OnMyWayToSenility · 01/04/2023 14:27

My son has a January birthday , it's quite nice to pack away all the Christmas stuff and get ready for a birthday. We have done a few indoor birthdays at trampoline parks and climbing walls.. parents love the tome off after a miserable winter 🤣

Also, he's in the middle of academic prowess and it's a nice balance

SquashPenguin · 01/04/2023 14:29

You are massively overthinking this. My partner has his birthday in January and it made no difference to anything ever. We’ve been trying to get pregnant for over five years, literally any month will do.

Crimblecrumble1990 · 01/04/2023 14:43

To be honest (hard hat on) I did avoid having my due date in dec/Jan/july/aug.

Would never tell anyone in real life that though! We were very lucky not to have any issues conceiving.

Sunshineismyfriend · 01/04/2023 14:47

One of mine is a Jan baby. It’s not ideal but not too bad either. I wouldn’t skip a cycle to avoid. I might do to avoid a Xmas baby though. But then again you never know. You could be due in feb and baby arrive early on Xmas day.

Stillwinston · 01/04/2023 16:55

My birthday is the 2nd Jan and I maintain that it's the worst day of the year to be born tbh - nobody has any money, everybody is done with celebrating, so many people start 'detoxes' or diets on the 2nd and restaurants typically use it as a rest day for staff. However, I'd be delighted right now to get pregnant so will chance having a baby round my birthday if I get pregnant this month.

Good luck with whatever you decide ☺️

Jennifer89 · 01/04/2023 18:38

Yes in fact it is a preference of mine and don't understand the issue. Perks imo:

No one else close in the family has a birthday then to clash with celebrations.

January is such a drab month that birthday for child would mean there is something to look forward to

Dark and cold so no sweltering in summer heat or pressure to 'go outside' after having just given birth

Just a couple months away from Spring time (my favourite season)

Not approaching being youngest in the school year

Orangebadger · 01/04/2023 18:42

Even if the due date is early Jan, baby may come early or late. My 2nd was born at the end of Jan but was due in March. I don't think January is the greatest month to have a birthday but at the end of the day it really doesn't matter.

MissGroves · 01/04/2023 18:42

Parties on top of Christmas can get quite expensive (I have one either side of Christmas 😂) but apart from that which is truly a first world problem there aren’t any downsides (I’m a June born - again no schooling issues being towards back end of school year).

mummyh2016 · 01/04/2023 18:45

I have a January baby and a June baby. There are pluses and minuses to most months of the year. Yes my DD who was born in June tends to have nice weather around her birthday however she is one of the youngest in her class. My DS birthday it's normally cold and dark but when he starts school he will probably be on much more of an even playing field.
If you're in England you would ideally be aiming for a September/October baby (I was with DS!) or February-April. We're talking 5 out of 12 months to aim for. Would you realistically consider avoiding the other 7 months of the year? You have no idea how long it will take you to conceive, if you're still trying in 12 months time will you still be trying to avoid a January baby?

Jennifer89 · 01/04/2023 18:46

Also no other celebrations in January such as Valentine's day, Mother's Day or Easter.. Another bonus

ThomasinaLivesHere · 02/04/2023 07:39

In Scotland the school cut off is different from England so those born in January are one of the youngest in class making it especially not a great month to be born. I’m still going to try as don’t want to miss a month.

Whiskeyinthejaroh · 02/04/2023 07:44

I have a January DC. It's brilliant. We look forward to his birthday every year and it makes January NOT depressing. Also, we get his birthday presents in the January sales, and birthday trips can be in better locations because travel in January is cheaper.

OneCup · 02/04/2023 07:47

If I'd been mid 20s, I'd have skipped this one. However at mid30s, I'd go ahead.

OooohAhhhh · 02/04/2023 08:01

My sons birthday is December 27th!
Not ideal I know, post Christmas etc but it's not depressing or anything like that, family & friends all come to his parties. Defo overthinking it!
It can take a long time to conceive so planning when to have a baby doesn't always go to plan!

CoffeeDay · 02/04/2023 08:02

It's not ideal but by far the worst thing in the bigger scheme of things. You can ask relatives to do a combined Christmas-birthday present which cuts down on clutter. You won't be able to have a proper birthday party for them because they will almost certainly be sick over the holiday period, or many of their friends so you get tons of cancellations. The nursery years are worst for this so don't bother committing to any fancy venues with down payments.

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