Feeling extremely emotional and upset

[Greengrass432]

Hi,
so the weekend me and my parter discussed having another baby and agreed we would start trying. I had a day off yesterday to went and brought some folic acid which he commented on and acknowledged in a good way when he got home. On the evening I screenshot my ovulation window which was 22-1st ( so now ) and sent it to him with a winking face. He just looked at me and smiled. So then come bed time he just rolled over and faced the other way! I can’t even tell you how much this upset me ! I must have layer there for an hour with a frog in my throat, and I don’t feel any better about it this morning. Ive wanted and waited for this for years as we can only now afford a second child. I don’t think it’s a good start !
Can you all see why I’m so upset ?

please be kind I’m already an emotional wreck! Xxxx

The whole process of TTC is very emotionally charged for me, so I’d never tell someone to not be upset. To be truthful the whole process is often very upsetting!

trying to see it from his perspective, I’m not sure id assume that we’d definitely need to have sex first day of the fertile window if I were him - did you communicate that you felt it was important to start trying straight away? It might be that he would have been happy to have sex but just didn’t feel the need to initiate? Maybe next time just ask.

I think it’s fair to say I’m the one in control of when we have sex (I have all the apps, do the LH strips etc) so often it is me suggesting when we DTD (and my partner is VERY enthusiastic about TTC).

hope it all works out :)

You’re not alone, I had a moment like this with DH around the 6 month mark of trying for our second baby (still TTC now). I was convinced he had changed his mind entirely, it turned out the trying was was just getting a bit overwhelming.

My advice is to talk about it and be very direct and honest. Good luck xx