11DP0 BFN

[TwoTwitTuTu]

Do you think I am out now? I've tried with Frer and absolutely nothing.

I really thought this month was it, I had weird symptoms like dizziness/ walking into things/tripping, a random yeast infection (tmi!), Montgomery tubercles (which I'd never seen before), cramps, random muscle spasms, just generally felt different in my body.

My cycles are a bit erratic but I did OPKs and fairly confident I am 11DPO. We also DTD so much and I even cancelled a weekend away with my family to stay home and spend time together...

Just feel like if it doesn't happen this month, which would it happen another month? I'm nearly 37, TTC baby 1...

Any advice very gratefully received! Xx

Sorry, I mean,'why would it happen another month'?!

@TwoTwitTuTu I definitely don't think you're out yet, not until you get your period. Plenty of people don't test positive until after their missed period. I think seeing lots of early positives on here can skew perceptions around that. Good luck!

You're not out until AF arrives.
It took me 14 months to conceive aged 37. I had cycles where I was adamant i was pregnant but I wasn't.
Don't alter plans etc for ttc. You just need to have sex every 2-3 days throughout the month. Having sex too much is not a good thing. Charles Kingsland from Care fertility has a really good video on YouTube explaining about sperm and why too much sex detrimental.

11 DPO is still quite early.

I conceived my first child at a similar age. It took us 15-months. I symptom spot like crazy and drove myself half mad - I was so sure I was pregnant every month, analyzing every twinge. I stopped drinking, refused to let my husband take hot baths, took body temps every morning. No joy.

Then we decided to have a month off trying; got drunk, ate all the wrong stuff, and sat in a hot tub for evenings on end. And that was the month we conceived. And the timing was perfect for us as lined up with my new job and a new home.

I conceived our second straight away (currently 22weeks and very nearly 39). While on holiday. Drunk all day. But very relaxed.

My point being, is try not to stress too much. Don't lose heart if not pregnant as you 'did everything right this month'. There are so many factors at play. There is always another month. And these little miracles just happen when everything magically aligns.

For many couples, especially in their late 30s, it does take around 12-months to conceive. All my my friends had their babies in their mid to late 30s, and I don't know of anyone who didn't get their baby in the end..

Anyways, you may well get your BFP in the next couple of days. Here's hoping! :-)

Thanks everyone, this is really helpful.... It's really just such a weird process...the idea of doing months more of this just sounds stressful, my heart really goes out to those who have been trying for years ... Thanks for your advice. I will try and just relax about it.

I'm out, af today... Came early. Thanks for your support tho x

I just wanted to add that I feel your pain here. I’m 29 and into my second cycle TTC. Mentally I’m also asking myself why if it didn’t happen last month it should happen this month. There’s a lot that can impact the outcome. Your timing could be off. Having sex too much which actually isn’t a good thing as it doesn’t help sperm production. The egg might not be viable. Even perfectly healthy couples don’t immediately conceive, unfortunately there’s no exact science to it. I will say that last month I was stressed as anything. Felt like I was basically forcing my partner to DTD (he wasn’t being forced but both of us were feeling the pressure to get down to business because I was fertile, ovulating etc) this month we’re just going with the flow and trying not to overthink. We really can be our own worst enemies when it comes to TTC in my opinion

Thanks so much swiftie. Hope it works out for you. being aware of stress and trying to reduce it can only be a good thing.thanks for your support and sending good luck your way.

Hi did u get ya bfp after