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Has anyone experienced this and then conceived

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NutellaBaby · 01/02/2023 12:59

I've been reading threads in this section for the past year and I was briefly on here but forgot my password.

Feeling quite low, I know some people have it worse. We've had tests done mostly fine. However had a intervaginal ultrasound and they found a polyp so need a hysterscopy to get it removed and I also need a HSG. But obviously isn't scheduled for straight away and getting an appointment for the HSG this cycle has proven to be difficult. So it's frustrating that you know you need procedures done and they might help but the wait is killing me. And then I'm thinking even if I do all that what if we still won't have kids.

We've been told not to try for a baby while these procedures need to be done as obviously can't risk it etc. So feels a littlle frustrating.

Has anyone experienced this and had a baby soon after?

Any positive stories please

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NutellaBaby · 01/02/2023 13:01

And to top it all off someone we know just had their second baby two under 1.5 years and I was hoping I'd at least be pregnant when they had their second. I know it's so dumb to even think that. But it's hard not to.

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throwitallaway · 01/02/2023 13:10

Hi - can't offer any experience but didn't want to read and run.

TTC is so hard, and it's no normal to think stupid jealous thoughts about others.

One of my friends who has a lovely 5 year old always tells me 'just enjoy being child free' when I talk to her about what's going on. It riles me up everytime! And it is so difficult seeing people have babies who started trying way after you.

Just want to say that you are no alone and when your little baby finally arrives it will all be worth it xx

Happinessandrainbows · 01/02/2023 13:30

@throwitallaway what an arse! Sorry! Your friend should be encouraging you instead of trying to make your feelings irrelevant. I had a friend who was telling me off after m/c for not being able to just accept that it's okay to not have children! Yet when she became pregnant (very soon afterwards), she wanted me to be all happy for her and want her pregnancy updates. Nope, it doesn't work like that.

OP, have you been TTC for a while? It is possible that the polyp could be causing the issue and hopefully should all be good once it's removed 🤞

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NutellaBaby · 01/02/2023 14:20

throwitallaway · 01/02/2023 13:10

Hi - can't offer any experience but didn't want to read and run.

TTC is so hard, and it's no normal to think stupid jealous thoughts about others.

One of my friends who has a lovely 5 year old always tells me 'just enjoy being child free' when I talk to her about what's going on. It riles me up everytime! And it is so difficult seeing people have babies who started trying way after you.

Just want to say that you are no alone and when your little baby finally arrives it will all be worth it xx

@throwitallaway Thank you so much for kind words it really helped. It's so hard not to be jealous and I feell so silly but right now it's like I can't help it.

Wow, that woman is not a friend, how absolutely bitchy is that!! She would not be happy if she had to hear the same comment from you, if the roles were switched. I get it sometimes it's the first thing that comes to mind when people are strugglling so you try to disuade them and make them feel better about their situation. However sometimes people just need to just listen and agree that it's awful and not try to tell the person you are lucky not have to kids.

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NutellaBaby · 01/02/2023 14:26

Happinessandrainbows · 01/02/2023 13:30

@throwitallaway what an arse! Sorry! Your friend should be encouraging you instead of trying to make your feelings irrelevant. I had a friend who was telling me off after m/c for not being able to just accept that it's okay to not have children! Yet when she became pregnant (very soon afterwards), she wanted me to be all happy for her and want her pregnancy updates. Nope, it doesn't work like that.

OP, have you been TTC for a while? It is possible that the polyp could be causing the issue and hopefully should all be good once it's removed 🤞

@Happinessandrainbows
WOW i'm shocked, that is just horrible. It's such an awful time and i cannot imagine the situation and she is like deal with it. Urgh, I hate people like that they can only see themselves.

It's been 10 months, and the doctor who did the scan did say it's a possibilty that the polyp could be causing the issue with regards to implantation. So after hearing that I wanted it gone asap, and the wait is killing me and then i'm thinking what if that isn't enough. It's so crazy how much you can control your life but in reality you have no real control. I just can't get the fear out of my head that what if it's not just that easy even after removal. Thank your commenting it is helping.

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MK85 · 01/02/2023 15:14

Hey op, i had a hsg in November and found out I was pregnant that following cycle after it. Unfortunately I had a early loss at the start of the month.
I don't know how we magically got pregnant but it's quite a coincidence after the hsg. I was just about to start treatment when I found out. I never imagined with both our issues and age ( male factor and I have pcos ) and given we've been trying so many years that it would ever happen naturally. Apparently your upto 30% more fertile after a hsg

Lcb123 · 01/02/2023 15:16

Sorry to hear this - please try not to compare yourself to others. Is there any option to have it done privately, to speed things up?

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NutellaBaby · 01/02/2023 18:12

MK85 · 01/02/2023 15:14

Hey op, i had a hsg in November and found out I was pregnant that following cycle after it. Unfortunately I had a early loss at the start of the month.
I don't know how we magically got pregnant but it's quite a coincidence after the hsg. I was just about to start treatment when I found out. I never imagined with both our issues and age ( male factor and I have pcos ) and given we've been trying so many years that it would ever happen naturally. Apparently your upto 30% more fertile after a hsg

I'm so sorry to hear that. I wish you all the best and hopefully you get to hold your baby soon. But thank you for giving me your experience. I hope you it works for me

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NutellaBaby · 01/02/2023 18:14

@Lcb123 Thank you. I'm trying really hard not to, and sometimes I jjust want to vent. I do to my husband but he is like don't compare yourself and I get that but sometimes I just don't want to hear the practicalities from him. Do men think we don't know that we shouldn't compare ourselves but it's really hard when it's our body that goes through every cycle preparing and then bbeing disappointed.

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MK85 · 01/02/2023 19:11

@NutellaBaby how large is the polyp ? Is it large enough to interfere with achieving a pregnancy? Cause If its small then it's not usually a concern.
Have they advised to you to stop trying because of the polyp then ?
As awaiting for the hsg wouldn't Interfere with being able to keep trying since you don't have the hsg til 10 days after your next period starts

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