Not successful after having intercourse, although everything was timed perfectly.

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Hey all,
I've suffered vaginismus for three years of my marriage and couldn't ever successfully have intercourse with husband until only a month ago.

For about three months now I've worked on my overall health and fitness, to minimise the risks of pregnancy complications. I'm 25, healthy BMI and regular periods every month. I've also never failed to take my pregnancy supplements.

We tried to conceive this month around my fertile window, but unfortunately resulted into seeing my period when it was due. I'm upset because I felt like I experienced implantation cramps during the TWW. I never usually experience cramps like this outside of my menstruation days. I didn't see any implantation discharge though. Only a tiny bit of blood on one day. But a week later after that, I saw my period. Could this be a miscarriage?

I'm beginning to question if any sperm even did reach my vagina, what if my cervix closed during intercourse because of my long issue of vaginismus? My husband only entered me halfway.
Or is there something wrong with my hormone levels?

Hi OP, am I right in thinking this is the first month you've tried for a baby? If so there's nothing to worry about yet, it can easily take a few months for healthy fertile couples and doesn't mean that anything is wrong. Keep trying for a few more months before you start worrying!

Your chance of success is only 20% each cycle for a healthy couple.
You haven't done anything wrong. It can take months or years to conceive.

This is the first month OP?!

**everything was timed perfectly”

OP, you controlled the very little that you could

It's takes on average 12 months for a healthy woman to get pregnant.. be patient OP

Your first month of trying? I think you need to let go of the control element here.

Your chances, if everything is perfect, are never more than around 1 in 5. That's why it takes between 6 and 12 months for most couples.

Are there other ways for you to ttc to increase your chances? Can you introduce the sperm any other way than full penetrative sex? It's not anything you've done wrong, it's just the odds of conception. It all sounds really tough for you. Are you receiving treatment or support at all.

I timed things right every month. Still took 64 months for me to fall pregnant (successfully).

Not every egg you release will be healthy. Not every egg have potential to be a baby. Its normal. I'm currently TTC number 2 and I'm on cycle 3.
Falling on your first month is optimistic

As others have said it's too early to even begin to worry OP. Also implantation bleeding /cramps doesn't happen or isn't noticed by the majority of women. The cervix is at the end of the vagina. It will be closed if you're not ovulating, but even if timings are perfect there's only a chance you'll get pregnant in any given month. You're young so the chances are very high this will all work out fine in time.

I second exactly what everyone else has said, it's too early to worry. You have to remember the chances of success are only 20% each month. I've also just finished my first cycle TTC and even though we DTD every 2-3 days the whole month, we weren't successful. But I know it's normal to take time and I'm not worrying.

very few women get pregnant the first month they try. 4-8 months is completely normal. No need for any real concern unless it takes more than 24 months, although some people start fertility investigations after 12-18 months, not because it is likely that anything is wrong, but just because it will save a bit of time to start early if there is

Hi, I suffered from vaginismus for years. I finally have two kids. Pm me for any advice and I'll try to help

Are you using ovulation tests? Did you know when you were actually ovulating or did you just go by app. Cause apps are just a prediction.

You need to give yourself time, OP.

Agree with @TheShellBeach you need to give yourself time. It's perfectly normal to take 12 months to conceive.
When I was 27 it took 2.5 years despite timing it perfectly, no problems with either of us identified.

BTW your cervix will not close due to vaginismus.
Better luck next month.

I am sorry but..... You're genuinely complaining after not being to conceive following ONE cycle of trying? Please educate yourself about TTC. Maybe you can buy some books or find videos on YouTube, if you can get upset after one cycle, it shows you hardly have any understanding.

I conceived my eldest in the first month but still took 9 months with the second. It sounds like you’ve had a tough time but be kind to yourself and patient.

As others have said, it's not that easy. Your body won't release an Egg every month, the conditions need to be right too in your pH levels, CM consistency and pH and ma y other factors. Just chill and enjoy planning

It's not a cooking recipe... put the right ingredients in the own and out pops the cake...

Human reproduction is complex and not fully understood. It's 100% normal not go get pregnant the first try. Give it 11 more and then you can start to think about investigations. Penis halfway in at ejaculated is fine, it's enough. No, your vaginismus will not affect your cervix.

Relax and lower your expectations on how soon/easy it should happen. You're 25, you have all the time in the world.

Thank you for the responses, I really appreciate them.

I know I've been hard on myself after discovering TTC didn't work the first time.
I guess I thought it would happen since my mother was a very fertile woman and fell pregnant straight away, so I thought somthing similar would happen with me, so after defeating my vaginismus I thought there was nothing else that could stop me from conceiving.

I've only realised there's a lot more to it, things beyond my control.
Thanks for the reassuring messages.

OP, if it's any consolation, I got pregnant in my second month of trying. Not saying you will, of course, but it can happen.

I fell pregnant in my third month of trying. It can happen