I know I'm being unreasonable, I really do.....

[MrsTittleMouse]

We are really, really lucky to have DD and I should be grateful. But I'm really pissed off with having to have fertility treatment again. Why can't we just shag like normal people? And then if I don't conceive one month, we can just try again the next, without having to organise treatment and fork out loads of money.
IT'S JUST NOT FAIR!

oh honey couldnt pass this thread by! x

oh it's soo frustrating! I really feel for you. I just discovered yesterday that I have PCOS and I am so upset and angry. No where near as frustrated as you must be though to have to go through fertility treatment My friend had 4 attempts at IVF over 7 years and is finally pregnant from the 5th attempt. I often ask her how she stays so calm about it. She just said she got used to it and doesnt really know any better - she had her tubes removed at 20 (when not planning children) due to Endo. She's so strong. I really don't know how she does it.
Do you know why you have trouble? or is it unexplained?

Thank you! I certainly wasn't calm or strong when we were TTC DD! By the end of everything I was a limp rag. We both had problems, and it took 8 rounds of treatment to have DD, so I really do know how lucky we are - there was no guarantee that the 8th round would work.
Now we only have the resources for 4 more "goes", so we're giving everything our best shot and keeping our fingers crossed. Chances are I'll never conceive again. It somehow feels as though after those 4 rounds I'll hit menopause, as that's it. (sorry to those who have early menopause by the way, I do realise that it's much worse than my problems)
Good luck fruitshoot, I hope that you're on the pregnancy threads very soon.

Hear hear

Said to DH last night that it would just be so much easier to have sex than go through IVF again. I'm not really helped by my NCT group at the moment who are all conceiving their second child within 1 or 2 months of trying - not that my problems are their fault, and I am happy for them, but each announcement makes me crosser and sadder for myself. Such attractive emotions, no?

i don;t think you are being unreasonable at all. it must be frustrating and upsetting

have a good stamp and shout..

i hope things work out for you

you are allowed to want and hope for more than one child

I have to admit that I found the birth announcements very difficult when we were TTC. Especially as several of the couples told me that they conceived first time - must be doing something right eh? nudge nudge, wink wink. We hadn't told about our problems, but even so I found it so painful and I somehow felt less of a woman. I think that it takes a very special person not to feel bitter sometimes, and I'm not that person!

onlyaphase - do you think that you will put yourself through it again? We had doubts, but we thought about how we would feel in 5 years time if we didn't give it a go and felt that we should at least try.

< i don;t thikn it is bizzare! lots of women have horrendous births for whatever reason and want more children, you are normal !! >>

Mrs TM - we are certainly giving it another go - ET today in fact. Come join us on the IVFers thread if you feel like it....

Here's wishing us both good luck then!
We have kept the infertility completely under wraps, so it's a bit difficult not being able to vent to friends (or even most of the family), and having to feel awful but having to pretend that nothing is wrong. It's not IVF by the way, I think that even secretive, private us would have a problem keeping that quiet!