Period lurking disappointment

[cat709]

This is our first month of trying, and I'm pretty sure it's unsuccessful, as I know my period is coming tomorrow. All the usual signs.

I totally lost the plot and was testing every day since 8dpo (I got a firm positive on 8dpo with last pregnancy). We tried so hard during ovulation.

There are some girls on here who are in their 6-12 months plus who have tried every month without success and honestly I think hats off to you.

I think next month I need some ground rules. And not keep counting my dpo days and don't test until a lot later. Stop going on google.

I don't know how some of you girls do it and continue to carry on with your daily life. I've been a stroppy b*tch the last few days. Of course I know I need to get a little perspective.

But having been on here and reading all the attempts every month, I have so much respect for the women who have been trying for months and months, and still have the positivity to congratulate others on their BFP.

Is anyone else behaving ridiculous and letting it take over them?

💕💕💕 Cat

This is me. I'm in the exact same boat. AF even arrived two days early for the first time ever on my first month TTC!! I know it can take time next month I need to be strict!

@katherine123x what dpo did to start testing?! Xx

9DPO ... literally couldn't help myself. Did like 3 a day ... googled every symptom. Checked here for every symptom. Couldn't believe it. Not due for a few more days and always like clock work!

I'm exactly the same... this is our second month TTC I'm currently DPO.1 and dreading the wait.... also in the meantime self diagnosing a range of infertility issues and becoming very negative. It's easy to read through the threads of all of these people struggling to conceive and think well that will happen to me too.... when realistically i think its 86% of couples are pregnant within a year of trying (aged 30-34).

Honestly I don’t know how we do it either :( it’s draining and very exhausting… every month is as painful, potentially more painful, than the last.

For me the only thing that keeps me going is I want a baby and this is the only way to get one! Praying all the sacrifice and effort will be worth it one day, best of luck to all 🤞🏼

I’m now on my third cycle TTC.. promised myself I wouldn’t be someone who obsessed over it and googled everything.. how wrong was I 🙃

I had 3 positive pregnancy tests in our first cycle which was November, in the week before AF was due. Then I started bleeding. I was so so annoyed at myself for testing early and being too keen… so after that I have just had to try and keep busy and I’ve promised myself I will never test again before I miss AF cos the disappointment of a chemical would just be too much to keep going through!

I know it’s so hard though, so I totally sympathise with you 😩

@Laul89 ah that's awful to go through a positive test and then that happen so quickly after. I think I'm really naive and I think a bfp means the finish line and so much more can happen along the way xx

@Superstorefan123 the effort will pay off and it will be amazing xx

I was the same… it wasn’t even a really faint line either! 😩 but I didn’t even know what a chemical pregnancy was before I started ttc and looking into stuff more! It’s just hard not
to become obsessed isn’t it!

Fingers crossed it happens quickly for you 🥰🤞🏼✨

My advice is -

1. Stop testing early!
2. Have something to look forward to during the two week wait, to help take your mind off of it. It can be something as big as Christmas, a gig or something as small as your favourite dinner.
3. Honour each new cycle. I like to do that with a few glasses of wine and a hot bath.
4. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

@JuniperandI I like point 3!!

I was exactly like you when trying for DS the first cycle I was convinced I was pregnant and then my period came and it was like being hit with a tonne of bricks. I was so all consumed with symptom spotting and constant googling.

I too vowed to change my ways with cycle 2 and then... bam pregnant :D

Good luck!