First time TTC - 12 months no luck?

[Glb1]

Hi,

This is my first time posting on Mumsnet, and I’m looking to hear from anyone who can offer some advice, who maybe in a similar situation, or who could possibly offer some reassurance that things do indeed work out okay in the end.

I apologise in advance if this post is TMI.

Myself (aged 26) and DH (aged 27) have been TTC for just over a year, after being on the pill for 10 years.

Ive always had an overwhelming feeling that I won’t be able to conceive, call it gut instinct if you will, and a year down the line this feeling seems to becoming somewhat of a reality.

I have very regular periods, nothing abnormal about them, and they last on average 6 - 7 days (plus occasionally an extra day either side for spotting/ brown discharge). I don’t have painful periods. I track ovulation and ovulate every month. The only thing that may be slightly amiss is I occasionally get a sharp pain on my left ovary area when stretching, however this could be totally irrelevant and just be me overthinking.

After unsuccessfully TTC; my husband went for a semen analysis which came back all clear, I went for day 5 blood tests which were alll clear, and have today been for a transvaginal ultrasound scan.

There was a trainee doing the scanning and the radiographer didn’t really say much other than “looks okay but results will go to your doctor” “I wouldn’t measure that unless it was big so leave it” and pointed at “entrometri”??

I’ve left feeling really worried and anxious about it all, so I’m really hoping the results come back okay, or if they don’t then at least it provides me with some sort of answers as to why we can’t conceive, clarity if you will.

Does anyone else wonder where they are going wrong? I have a healthy BMI, don’t really drink, I’m fit, active, everything I need to be but still seem to be having no luck.

Feeling very deflated and just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

I could have wrote something very similar not to long ago.. although my situation is a little different to yours.

I have always had super irregular periods since a teenager... back then was always told nothing was wrong and put me on the pill was on it for say 6-8 years. After finally coming of and it taking around 8-9 months to get a period I got all checks done... turns out I had PCOS (always thought I had this but it never got confirmed until late on)

Nevertheless myself an my partner were trying for over a year started getting referrals made and I did eventually fall naturally pregnant & am actually due a second little one this year.

I just hope this gives you a little hope that even though you have been trying a little while it doesn't mean it won't happen. My fingers are crossed for you that you fall pregnant this year OP x

Also wishing you all the best with your results x

Thank you so much for your response, hearing stories that have a happy ending like yours gives me so much hope. I guess I’m lucky in that I’m still young enough that time isn’t against us, which I should be grateful for really as I know others are not so fortunate In this sense.

I’m really glad you managed to have the family you wanted! X

@Glb1 Hi! I know this post is a few months old but I hope you don't mind me messaging.
I just wondered how you're getting on?

My husband and I have been trying to conceive baby number 1 for 16 months now and have been through the initial fertility investigations.. scans, bloods etc. All relatively normal other than my husbands sperm morphology being low.
Did the results of your scan come back ok when you discussed with your Dr? X

@TTCbabyR i could have wrote your post about the investigations! I am in the same boat…

@Glb1 ive given up keeping track at this point but I am on cycle 13/14/15/16 or something at this point of TTC. No advice unfortunately other than keep faith! I’ve known two people to fall pregnant this year after trying for 1-2years. I say this so we can remind ourselves we can get through this.

@TTCbabyR @UserL95
Still here but no better news I’m afraid! All the scan results came back absolutely fine, they said there was the right about of wall thickness, no lesions or cysts etc so just to carry on trying until we hit the 2 year mark. I have a feeling I could have endometriosis, as when I was younger I used to suffer with really painful periods, to the point I would actually pass out from the pain… but I haven’t had these symptoms for years and there’s no evidence of me actually having endo, as the doctor advised they would expect to see something on the scan, so I might just be trying to find something wrong, as at least then it can be fixed! The being in limbo is the worse!

We‘ve got to wait until September as that’s when they said they’ll refer us to a fertility specialist for further testing, but until then it’s just fingers crossed I guess.

Wishing you the both of you all the luck, maybe this next month could be the month we get our happy ending. X

Hi,
I am in a very similar situation. I’ve been trying to conceive a year this cycle. Had bloods and sperm analysis, my husband also has low morphology but they say that because of his other results that shouldn’t matter.
Every month I just know I’m out! I have always had similar feelings that I can’t conceive. Me and hubby have been together nearly 13 years and I’ve always had a feeling. I have been referred for the ultrasound and just waiting to hear.

Hope you’ve had some good news x