6 months and still no BFP. Any ideas to help?

[Beepops22]

Hi everyone, just looking for some advice. We have been TTC for 6 months now and I have just had a BFN on a FRER at 14 dpo. I have had my cry and a chat with oh and I feel like I need a month off where we use contraception to allow me to get my head straight without any worries of being pregnant as I am tearing myself apart month after month.

I have been taking conceive plus vitamins, using conceive plus lube and opks but think I need to stop them all to sort my mental health out. I will continue taking a vitamin with folic acid in as I know the NHS recommend this. I had a lot of issues with my hormones and sudden bad side effects of my birth control last year which is how we took the decision for me to come off it and start TTC. I have a fear that this was a signal from my body that something was wrong and the fact we haven't conceived after 6 months is only fueling this fear.

I am going to look at taking meditation classes and will try to loose about half a stone to get back into the healthy BMI range in this month off but was wondering if anyone had any other ideas of how to prepare my body for pregnancy and to get over my fear of being infertile.

It’s very common for a lot of couples to take 12 months or more to conceive. Stress can also have an affect on your cycles. I think having some time off might be really good. Spend some time with OH and go on some dates, forget about conceiving for a month or two.

Hey, sorry to hear your going through this. It's easy to say it but it truly can take 1+ year for a healthy couple to get pregnant.
When we tried for our 1st it took slightly over a year and I was obsessed with cycle tracking, vitamins, opks etc... it became so stressful and not enjoyable at all.
It's really difficult as you do think there's something wrong or your failing but really your not.
The egg once released is only fertile for something like 12-20hrs or something like that so it is finite timing each month and if you plan too much it will drive you crazy.

In the end I set a date in my phone to ring the Dr in like 3 months time and I ditched all the vitamins (except folic acid) all the opks and just relied on my body when I saw fertile fluid and we got pregnant that month.

Don't lose hope. It will happen for you. 😊

1-2 years seems to be really normal from what I’ve read- especially if you’re a bit older (ie out of 20’s/early 30’s)
It’s so easy to say try not to get caught up in it all- but really do try not to. How old are you?
My dp’s got his initial chat with the gp on Friday about having a sperm sample done, and I’m awaiting an internal ultrasound (march). I think when I first came off contraception I thought I’d get pregnant straight away, when we’re teenagers- that’s what gets drilled into us. It can be very difficult to get our head around that not being the case.

Me and my partner have been ttc for 12 months. 2 early losses and an ectopic in that time. Like you, we've agreed to take next month off. I need a break to regain my emotions and not obsess ( which I do ). I thought this ttc would be easy because I have a 9 Yr old and 7 year old but nope. Its alot more difficult this time around. The good things are never easy. Definitely take a month off when you need it :) I'm secretly excited to have 1 month off. I may even have a drink which I never do these days lol

I know it’s so easy for others to say, but six months isn’t an alarming period to not fall pregnant in. I think if you were hitting the 14 month mark, then there may be a reason perhaps - providing you’d had regular sex during the ovulation window for every single month.

If I could give advice to my former self, when I was dtd my first, I’d just ditch the ovulation testing and just have sex every other day when you have symptoms of ovulation and not force sex when you don’t feel like it.

sending love as I know it’s really emotionally difficult xx

Absolutely take a month off if you need to. I took a month off from the OPKs and tracking and obsessing in December and it felt really good. I ate, drank and was very merry!
Back to it all now though, but that month off helped a lot.

We started trying last January and took last month off and OH BOY… I feel so much better! I’m desperate for our baby but I feel calm.

We had fertility tests through a private clinic at 6 months just to rule things out & all came back as average. I’ve just started some appts with the NHS as I’m now 37. I have a hyfosy booked for next month & looking forward to it.

I don’t do any pregnancy tests anymore. Seeing the negative is much harder than AF arriving.

Just know you’re not alone 💐

Stress is definitely a factor it really gets you down. I used to believe the ovulation sticks as the be all and end all and track them and my temp every day. It all got a bit much really. I did use sticks for info as a gauge I suppose for taking a test but it didn't impact on when we DTD the past couple of months...DH never trusted them anyway so we used to DTD every 36-48 hours from CD10 until AF and I had reflexology. I got a positive end of December which was my 7th month post miscarriage. I had so much on with Christmas I had switched off from it and just assumed it wouldn't happen and we where about to start IVF actually (age related) .
I think relaxing helped and switching off. I know it's hard at the time try to remain calm the month off sounds good as your listening to yourself.
I did find reflexology very helpful though both for conception and just to relax. It's my second positive test following reflexology too. X