TTC after a loss

[DonutCat]

Hello. I haven't posted here before.

I had a stillborn baby last Summer, at 36 weeks. We're wanting to start TTC again but I guess I wanted to ask anyone who has had another baby after a loss how long they waited? I'm not sure if it would be considered too early? I had an emergency c-section, and I know some people say to wait longer if you had a c-section. I wasn't really given any sort of time frame from the doctor. I will say that I'm worried about people thinking that I'm trying to replace my baby. I'm not but I can see how it might look that way. I would be very scared if I got pregnant again, because I'd be worried about losing another baby .... How would I even know that I am ready? I mean, a part of me is wondering if I'm only wanting to start TTC now because I miss my baby. I know if he was here I wouldn't be thinking about having another one any time soon!

I didn’t want to read and run.

firstly, sending you a whole load of love! I am so sorry about your baby. You are such a strong mama and should be very proud of your resilience. Please try not to consider what others will think. I personally know a lot of people who TTC’d after loss.

generally, it’s advised to wait 12 months after a section. However, lots of people do conceive again within that time frame and do have healthy pregnancies. I think if it was me, I’d start trying again around the 8m mark - as I’d be cautious it often takes months to conceive anyway.

Lots of love and wishing you every success in your TTC journey again.

Hi@DonutCat , sending love to you. I also lost my baby girl on 18th Jan, she was born at 27 week and was at NICU and died after 6 days. I also want to start TTC . I had a NVD . My doc said I can after as soon as 6 weeks but she advised to wait 12 weeks.
And no , it's not wanting to replace the baby, don't be guilty!! Our babies are in a good place now. Wanting another child is Okey!!
Stay strong, and take care of yourself.