Natural conception with low sperm count, motility and morphology

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Hi

does anyone have any success stories after 2+ years TTC naturally?

I have an ivf success story after the same issues (+PCOS on my side) He's 10 and shooting me with a nerf gun as we speak. 😂

@Milkand2sugarsplease 😂 thank you so much. Did you have ICSI?

its secondary infertility for us so not sure we will go down the ivf route so I’m desperately trying to understand if there’s any chance of this happening on its own x

Yeah we had ICSI.

What I will add though is that I'm not sure you can ever really "know". I've had 20 years of the nhs telling me it was IVF or nothing (no attempts at anything before ivf at all because of my cycle) and then, randomly, 9 years later I fell pregnant x

Ah ok @Milkand2sugarsplease so you’ve had a natural pregnancy too? They gave us around a 10-15% chance of natural conception but that was based on one bad SA, 3 previous test results were fine so we’re not sure if that’s really the issue or not

Yeah I've got a 18m old too naturally.

However, me and DS1s dad split up and ds2 is with my DH. But, it was me that had the issues I initially and was told I'd never conceive naturally. It just so happened that when they tested exP, his sperm was all amiss too.

Bit it still stands that, with my issues and test results, I should never have fallen pregnant and somehow did.x

@Milkand2sugarsplease i think ultimately the chance just isn’t zero is it. And the consultant said to us that he’s not going to say there’s zero chance because there isn’t. But 2 years down the line, it certainly feels like that doesn’t it!

Oh gosh, it feels like a lifetime when you're hoping every month.

I had 9y to get used to the idea that ds1 would be an only child. I had a miscarriage after our second attempt at ivf and then had a possible reaction to the hormones that landed me in surgery so I decided that ds1 needed me more than I needed ds2 and trained myself to accept it.

Then, along comes ds2 9years later.

I was ok by this point and had accepted DS1 would be an only child so it definitely took me by surprise - a happy one but a surprise nonetheless

@Milkand2sugarsplease what you’ve just said sums up how I feel really. I’m worried to put myself through the risks of IVF when I have two amazing children but the longing for another baby just isn’t going away and it’s breaking me 😞. I think it’s come as a shock too as I have been lucky enough not to have had any previous issues conceiving

I was just unlucky. It might have been nothing to do with the ivf drugs to be fair but the surgeon said he couldn't rule it out because they didn't have a reason for what happened.

That longing is a very real feeling and it was something I really had to train myself out of, just like making a conscious effort to diet or exercise I guess. Time helped too - the older ds1 got and the more "big boy" stuff I could do with him, the more I let myself think that adding a baby in to the mix would really alter that - unlike when you have them close together and you're just in the thick of nappies, feeds and playbarns anyway.

It's been an experience having a 10yo and the devil himself a 1yo but as difficult as it is meeting 2 entirely different need, it's been amazing watching ds1 get to be a great big bro and seeing them grow together.

We were given a 0% chance and told we could not have ICSI as it would be a waste of time, there were no usable sperm.
Had a very unexpected baby 5 years later, MC at 6w 5 years after that.