Do you still try when you or your partner are under the weather?

[UnwieldyRhombus]

I was very very lucky with my first child and conceived on the first try (one cycle, DTD twice over ovulatory period) but this time I've not been as fortunate. I have PCOS so the first time around may have been a massive fluke and it could take a while to happen for me, or might not happen at all.

2 days until ovulation and we're both under the weather, bad coughs and the works. Sex right now would be a pretty clinical affair with no kissing and whatnot😅If we weren't trying to conceive and if I were confident that we'd be successful next month if forgoing this month, I wouldn't even be thinking about having sex right now, but with the lack of success so far, I'm feeling like we should maybe try anyway?! What would you do? Obviously not going to force my husband in any way if he's not feeling up to it, but just kind of wondering if I should push the subject at all.

Trying to console myself by telling myself that September is a very busy time for maternity wards and that a September baby might not have time to make friends at school before their birthday but I don't think I'm succeeding in convincing myself that September birthdays are rubbish 😂

😂 depends how important you feel a September baby is and how ill you feel.
Last month I thought we were out because I caught a sickness bug a couple of days before ovulation … two days later my husband also caught it, just a 24hr thing, we DTD 4 days after I thought I was ovulating and low and behold I’m now pregnant. Never been so shocked as definitely thought we were out.
I’d maybe wait a couple of days and see how you’re feeling, you never know 🤞🏻

Definitely don't think a September birthday is that important, I will take any month as long as it happens eventually 😂

Congratulations! That's fantastic news. Must have been a pleasant suprise! Maybe your body delayed ovulation because you weren't feeling well or something? My mum (not a scientist 😅) has this theory about ovulation 'waiting' until after intercourse because she managed to conceived my sister several days after her predicted ovulation - maybe just a coincidence, maybe something biological going on that we don't fully understand, or maybe just meant to be!

I do try to keep telling myself that if it's meant to happen, it will, and if it's not, it won't. I keep switching between serene patience and wanting it right.this.instant! 😂

@UnwieldyRhombus when I fell pregnant the first time I was so unwell so we only did it once in the fertile week, I was so angry at myself because we’d missed out, but obviously we hadn’t anyway🤣 I’d probably try at least once but not put too much pressure on after that, dtd everyday hasn’t worked for us so less seemed to be best 😂

Umm, yes we did. Dh was unwell when we conceived ds2. It was then or that month was out. I remember dh was concerned as he thought his sperms might have not been the best quality 🤦‍♀️. May be why we have a very cheeky 9 year old.