TTC but it's getting me down - many questions

[RebeccaSMnewbie]

Me and my partner have been ttc for over a year now, and I've watched people around me fall pregnant without even trying, or by accident, and tbh it's starting to annoy me!!! I know it's just the way of the world but I feel I'm doing everything right, eating well, taking folic acid, barely drinking etc. and both me and my partner have had all the baseline fertility tests and we're both fine.

I've been ovulation testing regularly every cycle and we've been trying on the "right" days and regularly. This month (unless it happened on the one day I missed) I don't seem to have ovulated. Could I be pregnant? My last bleed felt like a normal period but I've heard stories of implantation bleeding being similar. I thought about taking a test but wasn't sure if it would pick up a pregnancy yet.

The other think I want to know is would I be ok drinking alcohol over Christmas? After a year of cutting back and still no pregnancy I'd quite like to relax and unwind with a bevvy or two over the festive break. Nothing too excessive, just a work party and on xmas day itself. Would this cause me to lose any potential conception? Or would it be so early that it wouldn't matter?

Confused and frustrated so welcome any support. TIA :)

Sorry to hear you're struggling. Im ttc too. Had our first no trouble, but i went from August-December with no period (never happened before) so i think it's going to be a long journey for us too, if at all.

However I don't think having a drink really effects conception. Look at all the drunken one night stands that end in pregnancy! Enjoy yourself, let your hair down and you never know 😊

If the bleed happened when you was due your period and was heavy then unlikely to have been implantation. That would usually happen before period due. A pregnancy test would be positive a couple days after implantation though so take a test and you will know.

in terms of drinking if you’re not pregnant then go for it. You shouldn’t put your life on hold. If you are pregnant then I wouldn’t because if anything was to happen you would blame yourself even though it wouldn’t be because of drinking early on. I didn’t know I was pregnant until nearly 7 weeks and was drinking every weekend until I found out and the midwife told me it was too early to be an issue.