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I've been taking my pill wrong!! Do I tell DH before I take a test??

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AllTheOtherNamesWereTaken · 04/12/2022 22:52

I can't believe it!

Info is below but TL;DR shall I tell DH before I test that I'm suspicious I may be pregnant and have taken my pill wrong?

I took microgynon combined pill for years, took it religiously every day and came off it to have our very planned DS.

I am BF our 1YO and after initially restarting microgynon was stopped by a nurse and put onto the mini pill desogestrel because of BF. They quickly checked I knew how to take it and listed a couple of quick things that I can recall, I was like yep have had the pill for years.

Recently I've missed some of my pills because life is busy with the baby, I've just done a bit of research and seen that 12 hours late and you are not protected!! Very different to my last pill!

The reason I googled was because I had that whomb stretch sort of feeling I had when I was first pregnant. Maybe because it's on my mind I swear I have a pressure feeling in my whomb this evening and odd I know but I just had a long queef (😅) that so rarely happens to me but did happen when I was first pregnant.

I will be vigilant now to take my new pill properly, so if I'm not pregnant DH doesn't need to know and worry as from now there will be no risk. But DH is stressed about money ATM and we aren't planning another baby for a good while, so if I am pregnant I think it would be better for him to be prepared that there's a possibility I am pregnant before I tell him.

I am going to get a test tomorrow to check and hopefully put my mind at rest because now it's in my head I can't shake it!

If I am indeed pregnant there's no way I'll be able to hide it from him, I'd really rather not be yet but would be over the moon at the same time because I would so love another DC and know that you cannot take TCC success for granted.

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AriettyHomily · 04/12/2022 22:54

Do the rest then deal with the result.

Bournetilly · 04/12/2022 23:27

Take the test first

Sarahcoggles · 04/12/2022 23:42

Just to say that you're not covered with any kind of pill if it's more than 12 hours late

AnneLovesGilbert · 05/12/2022 08:27

There’s no contraceptive pill that works unless you take it every day. Do a test and hopefully it’s negative but you should tell him you’re finding it hard to be reliable taking it and he needs to use condoms as well if you can’t be trusted to remember it.

Sagittarius25 · 05/12/2022 08:36

Sarahcoggles · 04/12/2022 23:42

Just to say that you're not covered with any kind of pill if it's more than 12 hours late

With the combined pill you are, it's on the NHS website and all booklets that come with the combined pill. So the pill OP used to take, microgynon, is a combined pill and that's where she's got confused as it differs to the mini pill she takes now. When you take the combined pill you have 'missed' a pill when it's 24 hours late, you can actually miss one pill and not need additional contraception as long as you take both the missed pill with the current one on time (i.e. taken together). If you miss 2+ combined pills you need additional contraception.

Ohdearnotagain76 · 05/12/2022 09:07

I took the pill and fell pregnant years ago. I took it correctly went out with my partner had too much to drink, had sex then in the morning was sick but because I was sick after the sex I didn’t know I could be pregnant. This was nearly 30 years ago though. Hope you get the result you want

MillyMollyManky · 05/12/2022 09:08

Test first, it might be nothing.

twoandcooplease · 05/12/2022 09:28

Take the test first

LlareggubTripAdviser · 05/12/2022 10:46

Sarahcoggles
Just to say that you're not covered with any kind of pill if it's more than 12 hours late.*

From the OP ;
Recently I've missed some of my pills because life is busy with the baby,

No pill works when 'you have missed some pills' . This is not a failure to understand a specific pill and it's use. It's a failure to use contraception effectively. Regardless of the 'type' . To 'blame' it on anything except your own forgetfulness is disingenuous. Just own it. Then decide what you want to do with any accidental pregnancy.

I am sure this is the most common cause of unplanned pregnancy due to the phenomenal rate of accidental pregnancy reported on MN. Because the 'failure rate' is way beyond manufacturers and NICE claims and research.

TallulahBetty · 05/12/2022 10:52

All pills must be taken on time every day (apart from the ones where you have a break). You cannot miss a few pills here and there and expect it to still work. The year is 2022, how do some people still not get this.

LaLuz7 · 05/12/2022 11:01

Your husband deserves to know you haven't been reliably taking your pill so that he has the option to use condoms too. And that's regardless of whether this blip has resulted in pregancy or not.

By the way, maybe get one of the many free apps that sends you reminders to take your pill? I use Lady Pill reminder and it sends me a notification at the preestablished time every day and then repeat notifications every 15 minutes until I confirm I've taken it.

caroleanboneparte · 05/12/2022 11:11

I haven't taken any pills for 10+ years so might be out of date but I remember that combined pills could be taken up to 12 hours late and mini (progesterone only pills) only up to 3 hours late.

I much preferred combined pills partially for this reason.

I think one big reason for accidental pregnancies nowadays is the mass move from the much more effective combined pills to POPs.

Most women don't even know the difference!

I never took a whole pack on time over several years of use and never got pregnant on the pill.

NotToBeShaked · 05/12/2022 11:30

Test first!

Itsoktogiveup · 05/12/2022 11:33

Test first. If you say “I might be pregnant I don’t know” he’ll get super stressed and also annoyed with you, probably completely unnecessarily. Not fair to him.

I think you know that: it’s obvious. I think you want a reason to start discussing having another baby. That’s fine, and natural, but be honest with yourself if that’s what you’re doing.

Itsoktogiveup · 05/12/2022 11:34

LaLuz7 · 05/12/2022 11:01

Your husband deserves to know you haven't been reliably taking your pill so that he has the option to use condoms too. And that's regardless of whether this blip has resulted in pregancy or not.

Good point this.

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AllTheOtherNamesWereTaken · 06/12/2022 03:17

Just a quick update I took a test and it was negative. I then also told DH and he took it all brilliantly!

I'd become sloppy because I stupidly hadn't researched the progesterone only but will be much more careful now. As I said I was brilliant at taking my pill before our planned DS so I will be again now as this is the wake up call to be on it!!

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AnneLovesGilbert · 06/12/2022 15:13

Good news. Condoms too unless you’re going to be very strict about taking it and you don’t actually want another pregnancy at the moment.

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