Is 34 too old to start TTC for baby number 2?

[behappy1736]

I feel like I've left it too late. The age, the risks, the age gap between first and second (first born is 5 and a half) But I just didn't feel ready until now. Now I'm ready but I feel like I've missed the boat 🥺

Of course it's not too late!!

Congratulations and thank you. It's just a lot of my mum friends who have children the age of my child have second babies already I felt like I had missed the boat.

Thanks so much, I know deep down I am not too old for a second I just read too much into the 35 and over rubbish and it makes me worry. But the more I hear the more it seems that nowadays people have children later on in life and it's all good 😊

Honestly baffled how you could think it's too old. Several of my friends have had their first at 38/39.

Congratulations 😊

You can't seriously think that is too old. For goodness sake!

I've just had my first at 38 and will try for a second in a year or so hopefully. 35 is when fertility starts to decline but lots of women have babies with no issues, took me 6 months and we started trying when I was 37

Congratulations 😊 What did you so while TTC? Any apps or ovulating sticks? X

Nope. I had my last at 39.

It's not too old. I had youngest DC at 35.
Pregnancy and birth were straightforward.
I know that medically you are ( or used to be) considered to be an older mother from about 35-36 from a biological sense. Its true peak age biological to have a child is late teens early twenties but honestly not many woman are ready for that. 35 is absolutely fine and still very low risk

Yabu

You tick a couple of risk boxes when you hit 35 but if youre healthy weight etc it wont affect too much. But higher risk isn't actually considered till over 40 now. I'm 35 and having my last.

I hadn't even had my 1st at 34, so definitely not too old. I think your general health is more important when considering risk.

You must know of women having babies older than you? I don't understand threads like this. Do you live under a rock?

No 34 is not too late!

I have my daughter at 37 and there is a 7 year age gap between her and my eldest.

Happy trying 😉

I was am planning on a TTC a 2nd when I'm 33 or 34. Never even questioned that it would be considered late. Now you've made me feel like I possibly should be😵‍💫

Wow this thread replies are shocking!!!
@behappy1736 , not too old. It's totally your choice and only you can decide when is the right time. Good luck!

Not too late at all. I gave birth to our third age 34. It never even crossed my mind. My sister is 32 and doesn't plan to have children for a few more years yet.

What?? 34 too late?? This has to be a joke right?

It's personal! I wouldn't but that's just me preference of having them in my 20s and being lucky enough that it worked out. But in your situation, wanting another id go for it!

Course not I only started ttc 1 at 34. Had him at 35, second dc at 37.

I hadn’t even had my first at 34
second at nearly 37
conceived really quickly both times

Oh good grief of course its not too late. I met DH late in life so had DC1 at 40 and DC2 a few months ago at 45. Whilst it took a while to get there (probably due to my age) both are healthy and when I mentioned my age to my midwife not only did she not bat an eyelid she said that 35+ was by far the majority of her workload, she only had a handful in their 20's, a few in their 30's but something like 80% of her ladies were 35+. Might just be the area I live in though!

Everyone had their own opinions on what age is too old or young or young for having a baby, for various personal reasons. But I'd have thought 34/35 is in no way controversial.

But on Mumsnet you'll get posters telling you that having a baby at 24 is far far too young but it's the most normal thing in the world at 48 🤷‍♀️

I had my third and final at 36. He was my easiest pregnancy and by far easiest birth. I think as long as you look after yourself, age is just a number. We did pay more for all the scans/tests while I was pregnant with him though, for peace of mind.