Hi all. I'm looking for others who are ttc a 2nd (or 3rd /4th) time around who'd like to chat, but do things a bit different to how they went about it all before. What I mean is, chilling out, not being obsessed with ovulation sticks and fertile windows and testing, trying to keep it fun and positive if at all possible for mental health reasons (I know it's fraught for so many good reasons, I don't mean to be flippant as I understand wanting a baby).
I have a 15m DS and am 38. When my DH (40) and I were ttc the first time around I was desperate to have a baby, worried we had left it too late, and went a bit nutty with testing and DTD as much as possible during what I thought was my fertile window. It put a strain on our relationship even though I didn't mean for it to happen.
We've just decided to try again and this time around I want to do my best to stay calm and not stress about the outcome as we have a lovely child already and i feel grateful/no longer painfully longing for a baby in the same way. We've talked about it all a lot and agreed to try to keep this attempt a bit more joyful if we can!
I've learnt that pregnancy, birth (mine was rough) and having a newborn are all hard enough without making ttc a nightmare too- and thats being v lucky not to have experienced losses previously. Even though I'm a bit older, so there are more risks, I'm going to try a new mindset.
Anyone in a similar boat?