Likelihood of accidentally getting pregnant from this?

[hereforthefood]

So I'm on the combined pill and have been for a few months now.

I was visiting family with my bf over the weekend and spent Friday and Saturday getting very drunk and staying up until 5am both nights. I had unprotected sex leading up to, and including, Friday and Saturday.

Now I usually take my pill just before bed so, as you can probably imagine, I ended up forgetting to take it on those days. When I realised on Sunday I didn't take either Friday or Saturday's pill, I just took Sunday's and made a mental note to keep an eye on things just in case.

The two pills I missed were in the last week of my pack, I believe I had about 4 days left until I was meant to take a break. I don't usually take breaks (once every 3 months, any longer and I start getting breakthrough bleeding mid-pack), but this month does happen to be break month.

I've now encountered some unfortunate circumstances; I have left the rest of my pills at my bf's house and neither of us are able to go get them for a number of days, I don't have any more pill packets to hand, and I am unable to get anymore until I have an appointment with a doctor (recently moved, no current GP and impossible to go to a walk-in clinic).

All this to say, I missed 2 days of my pill, took 2 days as normal, and am now effectively taking my 7 day break 2 days early as I can't get ahold of any more at this moment. I have also been having very regular, unprotected sex consistently throughout this whole chain of events.

I wouldn't consider myself super fertile (have missed loads of pills in past years and never gotten pregnant, plus I have suspected PCOS) but I'm worried that having this break so soon after missing 2 pills in a row and potentially not having any to start taking come the end of my break may stir my ovaries into unwanted action.

Anybody got any advice they can give me?

Oh wow! That's crazy! congrats on your daughter though! I'll keep an eye on things but I do now have condoms to use and new pills so I'm sure it'll be fine

OP I think what lots of people are trying to say is that this 'I'm sure it'll be fine' is just an attitude of optimism, or optimism bias. It might be fine. Equally, it might not be fine. Your optimism doesn't actually predict the outcome, but it does make you more likely to go on being a bit careless. People are merely trying to say maybe that's not such a great idea.

Anybody got any advice they can give me?

Grow up.

So you’ve explained to him that you’re not using your contraception adequately? That you’re routinely missing pills and running the risk of pregnancy?

You’ve been open, honest and transparent with him about something you’re doing that could have life-changing consequences?

Is he currently trusting you to take the pill properly?

Or are you just keeping nice and quiet and only planning to tell him if/when you get pregnant?

Just to let you know @hereforthefood in case it's not clear

1. I'm glad you have more pills but you still need to use condoms for 7 more days so the levels of the hormones have time to build up in your body
2. a bleed after stopping pills doesn't mean you aren't pregnant, it's created by a drop in the hormones of the combined pill eg a fake period not a real one.

I'd recommend: take the pills religiously from now, use condoms for the next week, test in 2 weeks to ensure you aren't pregnant

I actually wouldn't mind being pregnant
Yes. That's pretty obvious.

Again no need for
your horrible judgement/ analysis.

Again- Absolutely no need for this at all. OP and her partners reproductive choices have nothing to do with you and no one asked for your unpleasant opinion.
OP asked whether she could get pregnant from missing a couple of pills.

Literally none of your business what OP and her partner have discussed regarding pregnancy or anything else.

Are you a male rights activist? Here to defend all those unsuspecting, helpless male victims out there from the manipulative women in their lives trying to entrap them into having a baby. Surely you have something better to do with your time.

I’m sure OP’s partner is more than capable of managing his own life , without your benevolent assistance. (For example he could consider wearing a condom).

Haven’t you got anything better to do, @Tandora ?!

This is a public forum - the OP has sought opinions. You’re giving yours, everyone else is giving theirs. The OP has asked - just FYI as a quick reminder for you.

Quite why she has posted - I have no idea, as it’s seemingly impossible for her to get pregnant from a few missed pills. Why be so bothered to ask, if she can’t possibly be pregnant?

N.B. The most obvious answer to this is that she knows full well there’s a chance she could be pregnant.

And yes, I’m absolutely judging her for allowing her partner to trust her when she says she has the contraception covered.

And go back to the beginning of the thread where I said this is exactly why I’ll be telling my DS to always be 100% in control of his own contraception - because clearly there’s a significant cohort of women who cannot be trusted. And if he doesn’t want to be a father, that’s on him.

And you are basically saying no man should ever trust a women to tell the truth when it comes to contraception. His default position should be to assume she’s inept, at best; lying, at worst.

yes I do have much better things to do, but thought it was worth stepping in and being a voice opposing some deeply misogynistic bullying.

OP didn’t ask for opinions on whether she was manipulating/ deceiving her boyfriend. She asked a simple question about the likelihood of pregnancy given some missed pills. The vast majority of “opinions” on this thread were completely unsolicited/ uncalled for.

I’m glad to hear you are teaching your DS he is responsible for his own reproductive choices (should be obvious but sadly doesn’t seem to be) although I’m sorry/ disturbed to hear your message is cloaked in a misogynist narrative about how “a significant cohort of women can’t be trusted”.

Um no

Can you get a Mirena Coil fitted at a local GUM clinic? Would help this situation and mean you didn't have to remember to take a pill in future. I had one for five years before I had kids and it worked well for me. Hurt going in but wasn't so bad as to be worse than an unwanted pregnancy.

But that’s exactly what you’re saying.

If a woman tells a man she’s on the pill and it turns out she’s not taking in a way to ensure its efficacy and gets pregnant, then the man has no-one to blame but himself? Even though he trusted her?

If the women doesn’t want to take every necessary precaution, then she needs to let her partner know so that he can either decide to coast along and take the same risk, or put measures of his own in place.

A women deciding for herself that a pregnancy wouldn’t be the end of the world for her, and so is willing to take risks without making her partner aware, is being duplicitous.

Believe me - I am a huge proponent of males taking responsibility for contraception, and you’ll see me on every vasectomy thread making my opinion of men who won’t get one very, very clear!

But if a couple have had a conversation about contraception, one half has trusted their partner to have it on hand, but they’re not, that’s not OK. We’re not talking about forgetting to take the rubbish out here, or leaving dirty socks lying around for someone else to pick up. We’re talking about something with a life-altering outcome.

In most relationships - when it’s something so high stakes - you would expect to be able to trust your partner. Not be the one to blame when they were remiss, and you should have assumed they would be, so it’s on you.

Whose relationship works like that…? None I know.

But quite honestly, off the back of this thread, clearly it is up to men not to trust - because, well, here you have it.

And yes - I know contraception fails - of course. But we’re not talking about contraception failure. We’re talking about the absence of contraception - unilaterally decided.

I think this conversation is an unfortunate derailment if OPs thread. I don’t think OP is being duplicitous at all , and I’m still shocked and horrified that people are accusing her of that, just because she dared to say it wouldn’t be the worst thing for her if she got pregnant.

But- although it’s irrelevant, if you want my view - we need to stop making women responsible for reproduction/ contraception, and blaming them for getting pregnant.

If a man wants to have sex then he accepts pregnancy is a possibility. If he wants to avoid pregnancy , he has options available
to him. Pulling out and condoms are both highly effective measures.

If a man chooses not to use these methods then that’s on him. I’m not saying that it’s ok to deliberately deceive/
lie to your partner- that’s shitty behaviour - but I also think it’s shitty behaviour to place the entire contraceptive burden on someone else , especially if you suspect that they might actually want a child! How unfair is that? I think that’s just as shitty tbh.
And as for forgetting the odd pill- that’s totally understandable human error and I don’t think any man has any right to be angry about that. Totally controlling and selfish.

I wouldn't if I was a man, just going by what I have seen and heard from friends and acquaintances.

but I also think it’s shitty behaviour to place the entire contraceptive burden on someone else…

It’s a massive assumption on your part that he’s done that. We can equally assume they discussed it, she said she had it covered, and he trusted her.

…especially if you suspect that they might actually want a child!

Again, another huge assumption on your part.

Why would he suspect that? Clearly - if he does suspect that - he doesn’t have a leg to stand on and deserves all he gets. Quite obviously.

But we don’t know whether either of these big assumptions are true.

At the moment, all the pointers are that she’s being cavalier, and he’s blithely assuming the status quo is in place, i.e. that contraception is being used.

Again, this is very much an argument for men being 100% responsible, 100% of the time, for their own contraception, because God knows what’s going on in their partner’s head.

I would like to add and emphasise that pulling out is not a reliable form of contraception.

"You must be fun at parties"

Grow up, you knew you had no contraception cover so you should have used condoms or avoided intercourse until you got back on your pill.

jesus christ the fact that people are still on this post analysing my every word choice is acc laughable at this point😂 don't y'all have jobs or smth to occupy your time?

So does pregnancy.

Can you speak to a pharmacist?

& yet you have enough time on your hands to have over time started a total of 24 different threads all along very similar lines.

Girl which part of your arse did you pull 24 threads out of??😂 I've made not even half that! The fact that you acc have the time to count my threads (badly might I add) tells me you could benefit from a hobby... perhaps primary school maths would be a good option for you!