How do you know when to stop trying?

[Harper02]

Exactly as it says above... how do you know?

I've been ttc for a total of 3 years. I've been on clomid for the last 7 cycles (I have PCOS) and I'm just burnt out, not sure if I even want this anymore. If I get pregnant, will I even have the energy to carry on?

I feel so low there are times I wish I didn't exist or life would just stop. My life has been ruined by infertility and I'm really at the end of myself. I am surrounded by newborns, have two pregnant sisters, and several other babies/1 year olds in the family. My neighbours have a newborn too.

I can never seen my life getting better, I'm in a black hole and I have no idea how to fix this. How do I get myself back again...

Just wanted a space to rant really, I'm just wondering if this is the end of the road for us💔

[title edited by MNHQ to correct typo]

Hi @Harper02, I'm so sorry that you feel this way. It took us a while to conceive too, and I remember reading something that really made a lot of sense to me. It said you should stop trying when the pain of trying becomes greater than the pain of not having a child.
That's not to say necessarily give up completely, maybe it's time to start considering other options?
I am also a great believer in the power of talking and thoroughly recommend counselling. You can either go to your GP or refer yourself privately, if you can afford it. There are counsellors out there that specialise in infertility, this could really help you work out your next move and help you to get into a better headspace. Personally I find it much easier to pour my heart out to a stranger than to friends and family.
Good luck x