Ttc, viagra, lying

[Differentnameagain]

Been ttchas been tricky with not being majorly sexually active or doing it on the right days.
now I found viagra in his car he says its to help with ttc but then couldn’t ejaculate after taking it. He blamed it on the viagra
would that stop him?
im not sure I believe he did take it at all?
i have asked if its definitely what he wants he says yes.

Anyone…

The fact that he has hidden viagra in his car rather than using it after open discussion with you suggests that he has something or someone to hide.

You don’t believe him, this is a good enough reason to stop TTC until you guys resolve this and have trust in your relationship again

I’d suggest that if it’s in the car, it’s for someone else.

He asked me to get something out car and said why would i do that if i was hiding viagra in the car

Because he forgot it was there.
Did you know he was using it ?

No hes never used it in his life as far as im concerned @KangarooKenny

thats what I thought but he said it was because he was feeling pressure every time i say im ovulating
but I would have thought hed have mentioned taking it..

he also said he’d taken it a good few hours before we dtd but then he couldn’t finish and he blamed it on taking that saying it stopped him from ejaculating

I think that, in a loving relationship, you’d discuss using Viagra. But maybe that’s just me.
Does he use porn ?

Yes @KangarooKenny

OK, there’s your problem then.
Do you honestly want a life with this man, or do you just want a baby ? And there’s no shame in wanting a baby.

@KangarooKenny why is the porn a problem?
Yes we already have dc too

@KangarooKenny you’re being very toxic.

@Differentnameagain porn is not an issue and neither is viagra. If you trust him then you trust him. Ttc and DTD is so much pressure for a man, my OH has had performance issues and it has made him really upset. So I can see why he’d want to try viagra if that’s what he’s using it for. why would someone get viagra to cheat, doesn’t make sense.
Viagra can prolong him finishing. I think just have a really open and honest discussion with him about how you feel about everything. Communicate is key!

Only my opinion, but I'd say you need to talk to him. And I mean REALLY talk.
What exactly is he struggling with? Who prescribed it? Have they checked his medical history first? What else can you guys try to help the situation?
TTC is high pressure stuff, particularly if your tracking cycles, and that sort of pressure can seriously affect performance. We've had that issue and I can appreciate why he might feel viagra might help. - BUT the big thing is being honest and open and getting to the bottom of his reasons, feelings and why he doesn't feel comfortable talking about it.
Just my opinion