Old, BFP, to scared to tell anyone

[Whyarewewaiting]

I'm 42 with a difficult obstetric history. Multiple miscarriages, premature baby which resulted in a loss, but also 2 health children.
I had implantation bleeding 3 days ago which is a definate early sign for me. Bfp yesterday and I've still not told my husband. I'm scared to utter the words, to raise expectations. Our last loss was just 4 months ago which involved multiple scans and anxiety.
I'm considering ignoring the pregnancy until maybe 10 weeks and only acknowledging it then if it remains viable. This will be my last pregnancy for many reasons. I still can't help but feel hopeful.
Help.

How healthy, mentally do you feel, keeping it to yourself?

Ah lovely, you must be all over the place! Can I give you a quiet-for-now congratulations? Keeping it quiet for a while may help, I know I’m planning to if it happens to me (43 complicated history too), I see it as a time to turn inwards. And hope. Good luck

Hi, I am 40 and currently 16 weeks pregnant. Previously suffered a MMC last December. DH and I decided not to tell anyone about the pregnancy until after 12 weeks. Do what feels right for you. Wishing you the best of luck

45 and 38 weeks pregnant here, what anyone thinks or says is none of your business. Who gives a shit? It isn't their life is it?
Congratulations!!!

Also I went for a private scan at 8 weeks, but didn't call my gp to tell them I was pregnant until 10 weeks, like you I was anxious after previous loss and didn't want to be poked and prodded until I felt the pregnancy was safe

Thank you for your replies. I think I'll wait a week or two until I tell my husband. I just worry that saying it out loud might lead to disappointment 😞

🤞🏻 for you. Wishing you the best of luck

At 42 your chances of miscarriage are increased but many 42 year old women still have healthy babies. So I think you have reason to be hopeful here. Get an early scan and keep your fingers crossed.

From a purely scientific/statistical point of view. your odds are better than 50/50. I'm hoping it's good news for you OP. Keep us updated and fingers crossed.