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How long did it take the first time?

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Chaoscontrol · 10/10/2022 18:47

This is utterly ridiculous but Google is shit at 'advice' and I need some real people..

How long did it take you to conceive first time? Google sets unrealistic expectations and I'm sick of feeling crap because of it..

I am TTC baby no1 and I need some real answers in how long it took, or if you are still trying?

✨Thank you

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LovingLifesHurdles · 10/10/2022 19:55

1 year for my body to start having periods again after being on the pill 10+ years (should have come off sooner as apparently this is common). Then 2 months of actively trying.

First time we worked out that the best way to get pregnant if all is working well is just to have sex every 2-3 days for a month, so that's what we did second time. Happened the first month of actively trying (as opposed to having sporadic unprotected sex).

BookHermitBlack · 10/10/2022 20:02

4 years (conceived via fertility treatment) in mid 20s.

Aretheyhavingalaugh · 10/10/2022 20:09

First time - 6 months Aged 31
Second time - 3 Months Aged 34

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Chaoscontrol · 10/10/2022 20:14

This is what I needed!!

Real, honest, actual answers!!

This is my first month and I'm expecting my body to just 'work' with so much pressure on myself I'd it doesn't happen first time.

Thank you, so so much.
You have no idea the comfort this is giving.

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tootrueblue · 10/10/2022 20:23

Chaoscontrol · 10/10/2022 20:14

This is what I needed!!

Real, honest, actual answers!!

This is my first month and I'm expecting my body to just 'work' with so much pressure on myself I'd it doesn't happen first time.

Thank you, so so much.
You have no idea the comfort this is giving.

I really hope things are quick for you 😘

Mommabear20 · 10/10/2022 20:26

With our first, We were trying for 18 months, decided to take a break from trying for a year, and then conceived the first month we started trying again.

Second was the second month.

And third was a failure of contraception.

So god knows what we were doing wrong for those first 18 months 🤷‍♀️

LovingLifesHurdles · 10/10/2022 20:27

Chaoscontrol · 10/10/2022 20:14

This is what I needed!!

Real, honest, actual answers!!

This is my first month and I'm expecting my body to just 'work' with so much pressure on myself I'd it doesn't happen first time.

Thank you, so so much.
You have no idea the comfort this is giving.

Sorry to hear you already feel so much pressure on yourself. Getting pregnant is usually a journey for most people (for some bumpier and longer than others). I think accepting that up front might make it easier for you.

Please be kind to yourself, give your body space and time, and take as much pressure off yours as you can. I honestly believe that pressure and stress really mess with out bodies desire / ability to get pregnant.

tiktokontheclock · 10/10/2022 20:27

DD1 - month one
Dd2 - month three

TTC94 · 10/10/2022 20:27

Partner and I were both under 30. 12 months to get pregnant - ended in miscarriage. Then a further 2 months until conceiving again - successful pregnancy.

It was a long and painful process x

LillyBugg · 10/10/2022 20:37

DS1 - three cycles
DS2 - ten cycles

Ten felt like a long time to me, it was about 10-11 months of trying. I can see now it wasn't really that long.

catsnore · 10/10/2022 20:39

First time: 3/4 months
Second time: seven years 🙈

Cuppasoupmonster · 10/10/2022 20:41

PandaOrLion · 10/10/2022 19:26

First month.

We both had so many things against us (health and age mostly) that we had agreed to give it a year. It was a shock to conceive the first month we tried.

Same with us! Quite a few factors going against us, so it was a shock.

Started ttc DC2 and was all set for it to take longer, assumed DC1 was a fluke… 2 months later I was pregnant again.

I have an odd ‘theory’ that it’s less to do with the individuals and more to do with how their ingredients mix it that makes sense? I had quite a few ‘scares’ with a much younger and healthier ex that never resulted in anything.

SunshineClouds1 · 10/10/2022 20:42

4 years via IVF
One MMC and one CP

Timpani · 10/10/2022 20:46

DC1 - 2.5 years and a round of IVF
DC2 - not trying, 15 months after DC1.
DC3 - 6 years and 1 failed IVF round and now given up.

snowflake29 · 10/10/2022 20:48

13 months with the first, all actively "trying" although I have very long cycles so didn't have many chances in that time.

2nd was 8 months of not preventing and not tracking anything.

Blessedbethefruitz · 10/10/2022 20:48

5 months both times. Alas, we started ttc started in the new year both times too so now we have both birthdays 7 days apart in bloody January 😂

Parky04 · 10/10/2022 20:49

2 years and first time for the second!

weegiemum · 10/10/2022 20:52

Dd1 - first month
Ds - second month
Dd2 - I had a mirena and still got pregnant, so wasn't trying!

Essexgirlupnorth · 10/10/2022 20:53

16 months I have PCOS though. Your don't want to know how long we have been trying for number 2

mummaoftwo22 · 10/10/2022 20:59

10 months with the first, I was similar to you and didn't expect it to take as long at all it was quite stressful tracking everything etc, the month we decided to stop tracking and just go with the flow we conceived.

With the second it happened first try which was a huge shock as I'd got in my head that it would take just as long if not longer than the first.

Surreymumma · 10/10/2022 21:00

First month

Moon5 · 10/10/2022 21:00

4 months x

mrsgtobe97 · 10/10/2022 21:02

9th cycle but took just over 2 years due to PCOS, ovulation meds worked 2nd cycle 😊

ifellintoarabbithole · 10/10/2022 21:06

An early miscarriage after trying for 10 months, then a successful pregnancy two months later.

Mind you, I didn't really understand my cycle when we first started trying which I think is partly why it took so long.

Second was conceived much more quickly, however with another early miscarriage in between.

QueenOfWeeds · 10/10/2022 21:07

I read a brilliant book which really hit home - it highlighted that we spend so much of our younger years trying to control not getting pregnant that it is just really hard to get your head around the fact that you can’t really control getting pregnant. That was a really turning point for me.