Feeling panicky about TTC

[onthefencesitter]

I had sex with my DH and I let him ejaculate him in me for the first time (we have used the withdrawal method for the past 8 years). The reason is because I thought maybe we should TTC, I just turned 30 and we own our 2 bed flat (in London). Previously I thought we should move to a bigger 3 bed flat before TTC but DH thinks we should pay off more off our mortgage before moving so realistically it could be years before we move.

And there is no perfect time to TTC. People in smaller flats have made it work..DH's mum had 3 kids in her 1 bed flat (also in north London) before moving to her 3 bed forever home in the same area in the 1990s when DH was 7 years old.

But I am feeling very panicky now and think maybe I should nip down to the pharmacy. Realistically I decided to just go for it last night because I might spend the rest of my life thinking of reasons why I should not TTC (going for the next job, the bigger flat, the more stable time). What makes it worse is that I am sure I want only one child so it means that I also think time is on my side. At the same time, I am not sure we are that fertile in the first place, having used withdrawal for the past 8 years (which worked pretty well).

What to do- had sex at 1 am so I suppose there is still time as I have a pharmacy literally next to where I live.

This is how my kindara app looks like if anyone is interested

I wouldn't worry about the fertility side of things unless you have a known issue? We used withdrawal for 5 years until we had our baby (5 wks old, also 30 years old but with PCOS) and it worked until we didn't want it to.

There's no right time to have a baby. My husband is currently in the military. I fell pregnant the first time (miscarried) knowing that he would be deployed and may not make the birth of our first child. With our baby son, he missed the whole pregnancy bar a few appointments and private scans as he was deployed still and was flown home as an emergency for the birth (baby then came 3 weeks later 😬😂!)

Add into that a financial crisis and my husband also leaving the military soon and is job hunting, plus a new mortgage rate of ridiculous proportions then it may seem a bit nuts but honestly, you just find a way to manage. Lots of people told me that and I kind of scoffed at them thinking they must have some kind of pot of money somewhere but it's true!

You just both have to be on board and realistic and open with each other to prevent any misunderstandings.

Edit to add re: the withdrawal and fertility etc. we fell pregnant both months straight away with both pregnancies so if you're worried you could speak to your GP?

I spoke to a fertility doctor before and she said the only way to know is to TTC, which I suppose I am doing now...

Update: I got cold feet and got the morning after pill. DH and I agreed that maybe we should start trying when i feel a little scared, perhaps in a few months.