TTC is taking over my life

[Melbell639]

Does anyone else feel like TTC is taking over their lives?

We've only been trying for roughly five months now but I feel like it has been forever. I know in the grand scheme of things it's actually not that long but I feel like it's the only thing I think about now.

Every cycle when I get my period I start off so positive with this is another cycle with a chance of making a baby. That quickly turns to me wishing the cycle away so I can be in the TWW to then be crushed when my period arrives again.

No one ever warns you about how much this process can take over your life.

It probably doesn't help that I work in an IVF clinic so I can't even escape thinking about it when I'm at work either.

Not really sure what I'm asking here, just looking for a rant really. But just know that if you are feeling like I am, your not alone. It's okay to feel like your TTC journey is not all sunshine and rainbows, it does and can suck too.

This is literally me. On month 6, but it is all consuming. The 2ww especially I feel like I can think about nothing else. And if I’m not browsing baby bits online I’m reading MN threads. I need a new hobby 😂

Oh lord yes! I feel like I could have written this post myself. Like you, I usually feel OK for first half of my cycle but by the time the 2ww ends I'm a total emotional wreck. I keep thinking it will get easier with time and maybe it will. But I'm 4 months so far and it's a real struggle. I don't know how you manage with your work being fertility / baby related too. Anyway thanks for sharing, it's nice to know I'm not alone. Sending you solidarity! ❤

@LMTx 😂I feel you on the hobby thing! Before TTC I'd probably only ever visited MN a handful of times. Now I'm down right embarrassed looking back at my browser history over the last 5 months. It's nothing but MN conception threads!

@Alpacabag22 Thank you for your message! It's amazing how, just knowing one other person is feeling the way you feel, makes you feel so much better and less alone. Sending solidarity to you too! ❤

Me too. I’m on cycle 9. I get about half way thru my TWW then start feeling so down when I can feel AF coming. It’s so demoralising.

I'm just beginning cycle 4 (I'm 34) and I'm finding it so hard! I know it's still early days but it's crushing every time AF arrives. Everyone else I know had conceived by cycle 2 at the max which is quite crushing. Tonight my MIL told me she needs to give me a biology lesson as I must be doing it wrong... Really helpful!

Absolutely- had to have a break this month as emotionally exhausted

Definitely not alone @Melbell639. My life’s been on hold since we started TTC 2 years ago - waiting for BFP, then going through two miscarriages, then taking a few months ‘off’ for my sanity and then getting pg again. Made it to 19 weeks this time so far and really hope this is the rainbow baby, being 36 adds to the pressure. I don’t have any advice - I just sort of accepted that this became a top priority and tried taking it easy on myself not being so focused on work, social life, self-devt etc, think it’s bloody hard to avoid that when the clock is ticking and there’s a new pregnancy/baby announcement every other day reminding you of what you’re missing. Exercise has been my #1 sanity saviour. Best of luck to you x

I feel the same! We are on cycle 3. All of my friends got pregnant on cycle 1 it seems! 😫 I’m currently in the TWW and just trying to stay positive for now. 💕

I’m in my third trimester now with 1st baby but can completely relate to all of this. We tried for 18 months - one early miscarriage and was in the process of having fertility blood work and referrals to gynae when we got pregnant. Sometimes it just takes time - keep hope and try to focus on enjoying life too and not just waiting for time to pass which I know I spent a lot of time doing!

In hindsight I'd say get off the boards, stop thinking about it, no ovulation sticks and what will be will be.

Can totally relate! My baby is 12 weeks old but the trying to conceive was torture! It took a year and it was either waiting to pee on a stick or waiting for the ovulation period.

Having to stay away from alcohol and eat cautiously with no end result and everyone telling you , you just need to relax!!!

Throwing baby dust your way , fingers crossed you have the double lined very soon

Oh gosh yes me too. I'm already using the Clearblue Fertility monitor and I've had to stop myself doing thing like temping as I'll just become obsessed! Only on cycle 6 myself but had a miscarriage earlier in the year so realistically been trying since January.

I already have a three year but I'm approaching 40 so it feels like time is running out.

Hi, just wanted to say you're definitely not alone. This is my life (along side a demanding job, house move etc). Buying a house has taken a few years (for various reasons, COVID and relocation being one of them) I kind of always assumed I'd have a baby/at least be pregnant prior to having a "family house". We now own a house big enough for a family but, its the just the two of us.

We've only been actively trying for about 6 months but as you say, its all consuming and almost feels like wasted time/effort.. all that laying with legs up in the air etc for nothing. What doesn't help is that I have wildly irregular periods (been on the pills for years to regulate and pain/heavy flow as a teenage/young adult). I haven't had a period since July. Did a test this evening. Negative. I thought I had a change of CM about a month ago, definitely had breast pain about a week ago.

Just feel so jealous of everyone else successfully making babies.

Hey did you manage to conceive op or any of u ladies

Yes! I got my positive shortly after posting this. He's now seven months old.

Massive congrats so happy for you

Yes conceived that next cycle! Little boy now coming up to 6 months, best thing ever ❤️

Congrats

In case anyone finds this thread in the future and is curious as to what happened...

I did end up conceiving the next month but that sadly ended up being a chemical pregnancy. However, I then conceived again 2 months later, and I now have a beautiful baby boy who is coming up to 5 months. In terms of what I did when trying to get pregnant in case anyone’s curious. Me and my partner altered our diets to be healthier, we both took pregnancy multivitamins, cut out alcohol, and I used ovulation sticks to track my cycle. Good luck to anyone trying to have a baby, sending baby dust your way.

Congratulations on your baby boy @Melbell639! ❤️ I also had my baby girl after two miscarriages who is nearly one, feeling very lucky x