Thoughts about TTC #1

[Sagittarius25]

New poster here and have been browsing the conception page threads for a few months now as myself and hubby are pretty much ready to TTC first baby.

We have been together 12 years (high school sweethearts), married for 3 and are now defo at the point where we want to start trying. We have discussed this lots. We are in late 20s. I have no doubt that we are ready, especially in myself as I'm having so many maternal/broody moments. I love seeing friends babies and even hearing a baby crying in public makes me feel emotional and like I want to cuddle them up and soothe them! 😂

However, as much as I know we are/I am ready, I'm finding it a bit difficult with the thoughts around it and it being 'ok' to fall pregnant now after literally 11/12 years with him and the running thought in that time was "don't fall pregnant". I'm coming off the combined pill in a couple of weeks and then we are going to use alternative protection until I've got my cycle back and a good handle on the pattern of it (hopefully this doesn't take too long). So I'm also trying to look at it more in stages of, come of the pill and get cycles back, then TTC.

I am naturally a worrier and over-thinker but it almost feels strange knowing that we've been together so long, knowing this moment would come (we always knew we both wanted children one day) and now it's finally here! it's like my brain can't catch up! And like I say having to completely flip my automatic thought of "don't get pregnant" to "get pregnant" is feeling so strange!

I hope this makes sense and wondering if anyone else has experienced this? 😊

It’s definitely weird going from “don’t get pregnant” to cycle tracking.

Hi there. We were in a similar situation to you. We were together 12 years before we decided to start ttc (13 years by the time it actually happened!) It kind of just felt like a natural progression in our relationship. We'd had the wedding, the house. It just felt right. I known it feels weird to go from just the two of you to adding a baby to the mix but I can honestly say there's nothing more amazing than getting pregnant with the person you love. We now have two beautiful girls and we're the happiest little family. Not sure if this helps or not, but I hope so. Good luck in your ttc journey xx

@Jb2182 yes it's defo the next thing for us. The pandemic defo put a freeze on it happening sooner! Thank you for your comment

I’m in the same situation, we’ve been together since we were 17 - now 30, married with a house and TTC #1!

I said we would be really relaxed about it, but I came off the pill in July and went straight into cycle tracking, LH strips and BBT. Not in a stressful way, I’m just really excited :)

Definitely taking a while to get my head around trying to get pregnant rather trying to not.. and it’s a bit surprising to realise how much time it could take.
I guess I’ve spent more than a decade thinking that late/missed pills would end up in a baby, yet here I am close to starting cycle no. 3.

Have you started any vitamins or Folic acid to prepare?

@SheBuilds yes I think once my cycles are back after pill I'd like to be relaxed about it for a few months at least (as much as I can be!) but we will see!

I know it's so drilled into you even from school don't have unprotected sex, don't miss pills etc etc. that it suddenly feels strange to go against it!

I already take quite a complex multi vitamin made for women, which I believe also contains some folic acid. But I need to properly look into recommended amounts and what other vits should be taken when TTC.

I had to stop my usual vitamins because they contained vitamin A, the nurse at my doctors mentioned I should avoid it when I told them I wouldn’t need more pills.