Shettles method

[Mum1016]

Hi

prior to having my two year old son I was practicing shettles method to try and conceive a girl however ended up having sex on ovulation day . Reason I wanted a girl was my partner was concerned he wouldn’t bond with a boy because of his own relationship with his dad and he always imagined himself having a girl . I conceived a healthy beautiful boy who we love dearly but he doesn’t seem to be bonding with his dad which kills me inside because I blame myself for having sex on ovulation day and not getting a girl , I believe if I did the timing of sex properly I would have got one . I just want to ask if shettles or baby dust method did work for everyone or not proven ?
thanks

Shettles method is not proven to work. Plus even if the theory held up, it still only slightly biases it towards one sex or another, definitely no guarantee!

Why do you blame yourself for having sex on ov day? It takes two to tango!

Does your DP realise that he is finding it hard to bond with his son? Would he try counselling or therapy?

He didn’t know I was doing the shettles I just said what days to dtd and it just kind of happened . My partner is bonding with him and trying his hardest it’s my son that is all for me and doesn’t want any love from him . Hurts my feelings a lot

Shettles is behaved on erroneous science and doesn't stand up to scrutiny. It's a complete myth.

Babies often prefer one parent over another. Just keep sharing parenting equally and enjoy being a family of three. Relationships will change, develop and thrive given chance.

How old is your little boy? It is completely natural for little babies to have a preferred caregiver and if you are the one feeding that will 100% be you, would have been the same if he was a boy. As they age, they love you both the same but start to flip flop about who they have a preference for "nooo, daddy do it" or "I want mummy!". Stressful but normal

Thanks so much for your replies :) He is two almost 3 . I just have this unbearable anxiety that I didn’t give him a girl he wanted because I did it on wrong day and I can’t shift the feeling that if I did it before I would have got a girl even though I wouldn’t change my boy for anything . I just am living what I feared that he wouldn’t bond with eachigher because of how he was with his dad . My partner thinks if we had another or girl they might like him more which makes me think all the time he wants a girl and wishes he had one

Your partner needs therapy @Mum1016 - this is not about your actions or your little boys attachment. his dad is creating a self fulfilling prophecy of not being close to his son! So many people have crap relationships with a parent of one gender but a great relationship with their child of that gender (eg lots of women had crap mums but have a great relationship with their daughters)

Your DH sounds like he needs to catch himself on and be a father to his son.