Early pregnancy after miscarriage

[Singingloudforalltohear]

I'm got my BFP yesterday. I'm 3 weeks 5 days.

Had a missed miscarriage end of last year and a chemical 2 cycles ago. Was so excited the month I had the chemical and then really disappointed when I started bleeding.

I'm trying to relax but struggling with the uncertainty and that it's not within my control.

Will arrange an early scan about 7 weeks but it feels like a long time until then.

I know I just have to take care of myself and wait it out but easier said than done.

Anyone in the same situation or who's been there and can offer advice? I know it might all turn out fine and there's no rational reason to worry.

No advice but just positive thoughts, I had a miscarriage in may at 5 weeks.. just had a faint line two days ago but just started spotting so I know how you must be feeling - stressed!!

In the same position here ❤️ and beside myself with anxiety because I just don't feel pregnant 😞

I could of written this post myself last April. I think I had over 25 scans - one a week up until 12 weeks (expensive and it helped for all of 24 hours). I now have an 8.5 month old!

I don't have any advice because until I felt movements I was absolutely beside myself with worry but I'm sending so much love & luck. Also, that it's very common for women to feel like this! ❤️

So reassuring ❤️ I'm just terrified because I don't feel pregnant at all - I'm only 4 weeks 2 days but I feel nothing and last time I had really sore boobs. This is just such a head*!

Get how you’re feeling @Singingloudforalltohear. Pregnant after a chemical and another miscarriage and feel like I’ve only started to relax now at 14 weeks. The first few weeks dragged on absolutely forever and I thought I’d lost it with some brown bleeding at 7 weeks. All fine though.

I don’t think there is a way to just feel content after the losses but things that helped me were:

• Accepting that I’ll worry and not feel happy for some time. And it’s okay. Just how it is - and I’m not alone in that.
• Moving as much as possible - I was still running and working out until week 6-7 and it really took my mind off; after that exhaustion/nausea hit me like a bus but I still tried to walk, do very gentle yoga - just time to be in the body, not in the mind.
• I took baby aspirin weeks 5-10 - honestly don’t think that made it (my MC had to do with chromosomal issues) but it made me feel in the beginning like I was doing something different and it helped mentally. Many women swear by it.
• Reminding myself that odds are on my side, even if I was unlucky before. Every day the odds increase.

Wishing you all the best of luck ❤️

Thanks everyone for your advice and sharing your own experiences.

It’s so hard isn’t it? I’m such a hard nosed rational person usually.

I understand why this is so worrying @MelissaD10.

When I was bleeding during my chemical a doctor told me not to give up hope as bleeding can be common. I struggled to believe that though and it wasn’t to be for me that time.

Have a friend who bled lots in first trimester who’s now 15 weeks though.

I hate the uncertainty and lack of control

@Laro23 sending you best wishes. I think the others who day keeping busy and active are on to something. Time passes quickly when we’re occupied!

@boymamax Great to hear it worked out for you.

I know the odds are in our favour - just need to keep thinking that way.

I’m going to have a couple of early scans from 7 weeks if I get to that stage.

Think I’ll relax after the first trimester

@SiberFox Glad things are going well and I think your advice is really sensible. Just need to stay rational!

I had a MMC and chemical in reverse order to you, and now 4w4d (chemical was at 4w5d so that's a milestone coming up). I have no answers for you about how to deal with it though - I'm feeling quite pessimistic and detached from the whole thing this time round. Used up my optimism last time. Which I guess means I'm not feeling very anxious at least.

FWIW there's research to suggest that pregnancies that start within 3mo of a previous MC are associated with lower risk of MC.

But all you can really do is take each day as it comes. What will be will be! I'm mostly trying to just carry on with life and act normal, with the occasional burst of "oh no, can I do that anymore?" (e.g. sauna, airport scanners...)

I could have written this myself. I have been testing this time obsessively and comparing the lines and googling. I even had a scan before 4weeks which of course saw nothing and really really panicked. I think I need some help basically I go between thinking positively to already wanting to book my ERPC (what I had last time after MMC) with the same surgeon....I just dont know what to do with myself!!!